I am at least half-dead serious when I say that I am opposed to good parenting, though.
You’re opposed to good parenting?
I have mixed feelings.
I still don’t understand. You have mixed feelings about what makes good parenting, or that good parenting is something that should be practiced by parents?
I think what a lot of people consider good parenting gives kids a really unrealistic idea of what real life is.
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I think what a lot of people consider good parenting gives kids a really unrealistic idea of what real life is.
I think you have a warped idea of what real life is.
Granted, so do a lot of other people.
I don’t, actually.
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I think what a lot of people consider good parenting gives kids a really unrealistic idea of what real life is.
Reality is extremely complex. Oftentimes, perception of reality is just as important. And even one’s perception being positive can affect further positive outcomes in their own life. Being unrealistic about the realities of life is not the same thing as trying to make the most of what you have.
chyron just put a big Ric pic in your sig and be done with it.
I’ll also admit that I, unfortunately, have a tendency to not like people that have things that I wanted so maybe the attentive parents just piss me off on that level, but I do generally think that people have a really self-centered attitude that they may not have if they weren’t the center of the universe when they were kids.
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I don’t, actually.
Maybe it’s unrealistic for you. There’s plenty of people for whom it’s plenty realistic. Myself, for one.
Well, that’s good for you, isn’t it?
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I just feel like you make a lot of generalizations based on your own personal experiences. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t take pleasure in that. I legitimately feel bad for you. But your experience is not the norm as far as I know. And so saying parents teach their kids stuff that’s either wrong or meaningless is just something I can’t agree with.
Of course there’s bad parents, who are an entirely different story.
Oh I know I’m not the norm. I’ve been accused of being a lot of things. Normal has never been one of them. But what am I supposed to do? I don’t like the way other people operate.
You added a couple more sentences as I posted this, but since those added sentences aren’t making sense to me I don’t know what to say to them so I guess it’s okay.
I didn’t say anything about teaching kids anything. That’s actually my problem with most parents; it’s that they don’t teach their kids anything. And I know that’s true because most people don’t know much of anything.
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I do generally think that people have a really self-centered attitude that they may not have if they weren’t the center of the universe when they were kids.
I’m currently fighting this with my daughter. But it’s a bit of a juggling act. I want her to be independent and to learn to do things on her own, but I also want to teach her that she can and should rely on others for help, and that she won’t always get her way. Sometimes not letting her have her way isn’t that important for a particular whatever-it-is. It really depends on the situation, the innate personality of the child, and it’s complicated by deciding in that moment which lesson I’m deciding to teach her.
I don’t want her to always get her way, but I want her to know if I say “no” there’s a reason for the no, not just because I felt like it; I want her to be independent, but I don’t want her to make a mess, break things, or hurt herself.
Also, if I’m playing a video game and she asks me to play blocks with her, I have to decide whether I want to teach her not to hog my attention or to encourage her to interact with other people in a tactile environment. Plus I have to decide if what I’m doing is comparatively all that important for my own self. No, she’s not the center of the universe for everyone, but neither should I be for me.
It’s complicated.
chyron just put a big Ric pic in your sig and be done with it.
My siblings and I entertained ourselves by throwing blocks and video game controllers at each other.
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I didn’t say anything about teaching kids anything. That’s actually my problem with most parents; it’s that they don’t teach their kids anything.
I think what a lot of people consider good parenting gives kids a really unrealistic idea of what real life is.
I didn’t say anything about teaching kids anything. That’s actually my problem with most parents; it’s that they don’t teach their kids anything.
I think what a lot of people consider good parenting gives kids a really unrealistic idea of what real life is.
That has nothing to do with teaching or imparting knowledge at all. I was referring to how kids think they’re important and then are thrown into the real world where no one cares if you live or die.
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I always thought it’d be cool to take the last name of my future wife (if I ever have one, it’s not really a goal of mine or anything). Not because of issues with the patriarchal norm of taking the husband’s name (although I guess that is part of it), but mostly just because I don’t care much for my last name. Another option that entices me is both of us picking a new last name to share, which would be helpful if I don’t care for her last name either.
Or I could probably just change my last name without getting married.
That sounds like a lot of work.
The Person in Question
That sounds like a lot of work.
Changing my name? Yeah. That’s why I haven’t done it yet.
I didn’t say anything about teaching kids anything. That’s actually my problem with most parents; it’s that they don’t teach their kids anything.
I think what a lot of people consider good parenting gives kids a really unrealistic idea of what real life is.
That has nothing to do with teaching or imparting knowledge at all. I was referring to how kids think they’re important and then are thrown into the real world where no one cares if you live or die.
Well fine but once again “no one cares if you live or die” is an extremely broad generalization.
I didn’t say anything about teaching kids anything. That’s actually my problem with most parents; it’s that they don’t teach their kids anything.
I think what a lot of people consider good parenting gives kids a really unrealistic idea of what real life is.
That has nothing to do with teaching or imparting knowledge at all. I was referring to how kids think they’re important and then are thrown into the real world where no one cares if you live or die.
Well fine but once again “no one cares if you live or die” is an extremely broad generalization.
It’s still mostly true. Even the people that’d be sad would most likely get over it.
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My wife still has her own name. We’re doing just fine.
I’d go this route. I simply don’t see the need for any potential wife to adopt my surname.
As for potential children, I think the daughters would inherit my name while the sons would inherit their mother’s, just to switch things up.
If I ever find a woman and get married, I would prefer that she take my last name(it is tradition and I am a traditionalist). But if i truly loved her, and I would have to if I were going to be marrying her, I wouldn’t let the fact that she doesn’t want to take my last name stop me from marrying her. As for kids, we would just have to reach some agreement(before the wedding).
As for potential children, I think the daughters would inherit my name while the sons would inherit their mother’s, just to switch things up.
That sounds unnecessarily confusing for them and anyone they know.
I am a traditionalist
Really?
Idk what I’d do about last names if I got married. Probably just not get married, but if I do, it would depend largely on what sounds best to me.
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