Jay said:
lordjedi said:
I'm 34
You sound 104.
Kids are supposed to have their own style and do stupid shit. If they didn't, they wouldn't be kids--and they'd never learn. You can fantasize all you want about telling children this and that and expecting them to follow your lead, but if you think kids do anything other than what they want to do, you're naive.
I don't expect them to follow my lead 100%. They just better be ready for the consequences when they fuck up. Most "kids" (read: teens) these days are not ready for the consequences. Oh, that's right, they have no consequences when they screw up because mom and dad fix everything so they learn nothing.
Any kid who does exactly what he's told is either too stupid to think for himself or too scared to incur the wrath of mommy and daddy.
Or C, figures, on some things, that maybe his/her parents, who are a lot older than him/her, know more than him/her and can give far better advice than experimenting will provide. I didn't listen to my parents 100%, but I also wasn't out partying until all hours of the night getting into trouble. The worst thing I did was stay out late with some friends, after I graduated high school, playing roleplaying games (think Rifts and AD&D). But during high school, I kept my nose clean.
And I wouldn't say YIYF is immature because he's saddened by the sounds of friends turning into weak, scared old men. Face it, not everyone is meant to fall in line like you have.
Weak and scared? Who's weak and scared? I've never been more confident in my life. I don't "fall in line" either. When I see something wrong, either in my family or at work, I speak my mind. If I "fell in line" then I'd be just another drone.
I may have more responsibilities now, but that's what happens when you get married, buy a house, and start a family. There are more people than myself to think about, but none of that makes me "weak and scared". Being a responsible adult doesn't mean you're "weak and scared". I know far more "adults" that are weak and scared because they aren't responsible than I do the ones that are responsible.
I have a friend that's 32. He still parties like he did when he was 22. That's all fine and dandy, except that he actually called me up one night to see if I'd be able to pick him up if he got to drunk to drive. Being a good friend, I simply asked him where he was and how far it was from my house. It was relatively close by (20 freeway mins) so I agreed to do it (if necessary). Another friend ended up taking him home. If the drive had been further, he would've been out of luck.
The point is, and the other friend talked to him about it, he knows he really shouldn't be out partying all night like he does. He does it because the only responsibility he has is an 8-5 job and paying rent. As long as he does both on time, he's good to go. But when that lifestyle starts to conflict with others responsibilities, that's when trouble starts.
BTW: YIYF mentioned that he and his friends are 28. Maybe his friends look back on some of the things they did and realize that those things were pretty stupid. Now they see other kids doing the same things and think it's stupid. How does that make them weak and scared? Their parents probably thought what they were doing was stupid too. I look back on some of the shit I did as really stupid, even though it was TOTALLY mild compared to what other kids my age were doing.