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#599688
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[fill in the blank] Just Died!
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None of you knows this man, but I do.  While not close friends, I'd still consider him an friend.  He and I attended the same congregation at church until some very recent boundary changes.  I sat by him several times.  He has a wife and two very young daughters.  I am saddened by this news, and I don't really want it to be a political discussion.  It's just always different when you read about it happening to someone in some place you've never heard of and when it happens to someone you actually know.

http://www.boston.com/news/nation/2012/10/02/border-patrol-agent-shot-killed-patrol-ariz/6lgBUZoNLhk5YlpLCuRnhO/story.html

God be with the Ivie family, and goodbye Nick.  Families are forever.

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#599666
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The thread where we make enemies out of friends, aka the abortion debate thread
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I'm sorry, but the "abortion should be legal in all cases" mentality is equally pervasive and annoying.  But neither you nor I completely hold to those arguments (as mentioned before, I personally allow for some, albeit few and limited, exceptions--and I doubt you feel that abortion should have no restrictions).  Still, I'd always rather err on the side of caution, even in my giving way to the other side.

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#599602
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Curiosity landed on Mars!
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Leonardo said:

Would you guys say there's not that much interest in space since... well, the 70's? Nowadays, if something happens in the scientific world regarding some new conquers in the matter of the colonization of outer space, it gains a little attention in the news, say a couple of weeks, people may think "huh, neat" but then it's quickly forgotten in favor of some blonde bimbo who gained her 15 minutes of fame doing something absolutely inane and vulgar on tv.

I mean, let's face it, space, sad as it is, has lost its appeal.

 

....Meet Leo, dispenser of platitudes...

Kinda funny that here, at a Star Wars site, people are bored with space and other planets ;)

Those pictures of Mars rocks are pretty cool.  I wish the news did cover this stuff more.  It really is more amazing than people are aware.  All the planets in our solar system are unique and special in their own ways.  Each shows just how earth could have ended up had things been slightly different.  Mars has seasons.  It's only about 50% further from the sun than we are.  It has a great deal of water locked up in its polar caps.  It's red color comes from its covering of iron oxide.  In other words, there is a great deal of oxygen there.  There is so much potential for this planet.  And while we currently have difficulties with fueling and other such prohibitions, the greatest problem is the lack of shielding from cosmic rays, which are extremely powerful particles that can quite damaging.  Astronauts saw periodic flashes of light while on the moon, and didn't know what it was.  Later it was determined that these were cosmic rays passing through their retinas.  Subsequent examinations of their helmets found extremely small areas of damage where these particles past through.  Other radiation such as gamma radiation also poses a problem.  A lengthy trip to Mars would be dangerous to life and limb.  But it is possible if we can find some effective shielding.  Makes me think of energy shielding, something like our radiation belts around our planet that keep us safe.  Can we create something similar artificially?  This is mostly off the top of my head, but to me it is endlessly fascinating!

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#599598
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Psycho Dayv Lives!
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Bingowings said:

The levels of hypocrisy on display here are astonishing at times.

Very well.

I'll bugger off.

Life is too short.

Not my intention to be hypocritical, and my comment was directed mostly at CP3S, not you, though I do think that everyone should be more considerate.  I'm sure my teasing has gone too far, and I know I've been rude in the past.  I've also apologized.  But to me, considering the serious subject matter, and considering the sensitive nature of that matter (remember, I work in mental health), I just feel that even speculation or bringing up past wrongs is unwise in this thread.  I hardly know Dayv or anyone's history with him, but I felt prompted to start commenting here when I felt that there may have been too many misguided, even if not intentionally rude, comments.

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#599534
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Psycho Dayv Lives!
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It seems like there are times for snide comments and jokes and there are times for sensitivity.  There are other people at other monitors and keyboards who read what is posted, not just a bunch of spambots replying to our jokes.  That means that while there could be a complete conman at the other end, there could also be someone in dire need (and I refer to the Internet in general, not just dayv or this site, obviously).  Regardless of how trivial it may seem, even comments by Internet posters hurt others and have motivated people to make extreme choices.  It doesn't hurt anyone to be cautious and worry about dayv, regardless of any bad history.  I agree with Warb, keep snotty comments to yourselves.

We do hope you're okay, dayv.

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#599475
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Last movie seen
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DominicCobb said:

Tobar said:

DominicCobb said:

I decided not to see The Bourne Legacy (even though that was the reason I re-watched the the films) because I didn't want the trilogy to be ruined.

See it, it ruins nothing. I can almost guarantee you'll dig it.

Cool, thanks for the recommendation. Though I'd like to point out that the other reason I didn't see it was I didn't have the time while it was still in theaters. But it'll be at the top of my Netflix queue when it comes out.

I'd hate for you to have to see a 7/10 flick.  Can't blame you for your hesitance ;)

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#599260
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The thread where we make enemies out of friends, aka the abortion debate thread
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Bingowings said:

darth_ender said:

Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems that ultimately it all boils down to.  Excluding rape/incest/mother's health, which inevitably only account for a relatively small portion of all abortions, they all seem to fall under the categories I described.  Even a young pregnant teen has an abortion because of convenience...a child would interfere with her life, would be expensive, would be unloved and unwanted, would not have a father, or something else along those lines.  In other words, inconvenient.  If I'm wrong, I'd love some enlightenment.

I take it you include mental health under the health bracket?

Indeed I do, though I think such an argument is overused.  Having a child is mentally and physically stressful on any parent.  If mental health were enough of a reason to abort a child, then perhaps we should actually set our limit after birth.  I mean, children are extremely stressful.  Besides, they don't gain self-awareness for several months, and their deaths can be made utterly painless.  Of course I don't believe any of this, but my point is that mental health should be limited in interpretation, otherwise it can be argued for any case.  I make rape/incest my point of willing flexibility.

Not that some women who go through an abortion aren't traumatised by it but similarly some pregnant women are not emotionally mature enough to cope with trauma of child birth and the dilemma and the emotional fall out of letting go of the baby.

Perhaps not.  But may I also state that few people are emotionally mature enough to have children.  They just make do.  It's physically and emotionally traumatic.  It changes lives.  People can and should seek mental health assistance liberally if necessary.

And besides it's not as if it's a human being when it's a just a bunch of cells.

If it's no more able to feel suffering than a prawn in a salad (which most of you guys would eat) why get so romantically attached to it that you intrude onto the rights of others?

While I understand your point, I respectfully disagree.  Especially considering your respect of all animal life and not just humans, I would think you'd understand the value of preserving such life.

From a religious standpoint, I of course see it as a human with a spirit.  But understanding that not everyone is religious, I appeal to a different argument, that of potential.  If a human is in a coma with little brain activity, he/she too is little more than a bunch of cells.  But if the doctors do believe there is any chance of recovery, it would certainly be unethical to "pull the plug" under any circumstances.  Again I'm going to look at Mars.  What if we found microscopic life there?  What if we endangered that life?  To what lengths would humanity go to preserve it?  I imagine they'd do whatever possible.  And why?  For some sort of bacteria?  It's not human.  But it has potential!  What could teach us?  What could it evolve into?  We would save it because of its potential.  We'd have no other rationale.  But it's a reasonable reason.  But if we are willing to save a primitive life because of its potential, then we should be willing to save a bunch of cells termed a human embryo or fetus, because it has the potential to be a thinking, sentient human.

Don't get me wrong, when people who want children miscarry at that stage it's physically and emotionally traumatic for the parents and their family who have had their hopes dashed. But in that instance it's the parents who have suffered not the fetus because it can only be compared to a human baby with any degree of success quite a distance down the journey.

Clearly.

In an ideal world people would use successful contraception in the event of engaging in sex without intending to have children.

If they never intend on having children they should use surgical contraception.

Won't disagree.

Activities do have consequences and all options should presented as soon as possible but to demonise early abortions is daft.

The later the abortion the more difficult the decision and the worrying a moral maze it becomes.

Ultimately it should be scientists which draw up where the demarcation line is.

Not spiritual leaders?  Not representative politicians?  Not the general populace?  Not that I agree with the general populace or the majority of our elected officials, but it's simply not so cut and dry.  It is a moral maze, but only to those who do not see the extent of the loss of an unborn child, the loss of a human life, even if that life has only barely begun.  If we truly value human life, then that value should not only begin when human life is capable of self-awareness or feeling pain or whatever.  A human life is a human life, and in general we should do everything to protect it.

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#599439
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Psycho Dayv Lives!
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I don't know how things are where you live, but in AZ mental health is able and compelled by law to provide housing to those who are willing to allow them.  Talk to the social worker at the facility about housing, and you will likely find a temporary living situation while they assist you in finding a longer term place to live.  There are many programs available for those who are destitute and you need not be homeless.  Best of luck!

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#599252
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The thread where we make enemies out of friends, aka the abortion debate thread
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TV's Frink said:

I'm sorry to hear about your brother's situation, and of course I'm not trying to imply he would have been better off aborted.

 

I wanted to respond to this sentence more specifically.  I of course did not construe anything you said as an inference that he'd have been better off aborted.  However, many do feel that those whith genetic defects would indeed be better off aborted.  And thank you for worrying about my brother :)

That said, I can honestly tell you that I believe him to be one of the biggest blessings in my family's lives.  All my siblings are close and have made good decisions with their lives (8 of us in total; typical Mormon family, eh?).  All of us are blessed with a healthy dose of compassion, as evidenced by my career choices (which I have revealed here on multiple occasions) and the choices of my family members.  I believe my brother is in fact one of the best things that ever happened to any of us.  If only more people were willing to accept the challenges of a developmentally disabled child, trusting that many blessings will also come by continuing with such a pregnancy.

EDIT: Trying to respond to Bingo, but it will have to wait.

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#599115
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The thread where we make enemies out of friends, aka the abortion debate thread
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TV's Frink said:

darth_ender said:

Well, I admit that upon my writing that, I wasn't considering genetic abnormalities.  Nevertheless, I don't consider genetic abnormalities to be a reasonable factor as well.  I have a brother with trisomy 21, aka Down's syndrome, so I am aware of them and their commonality.  My brother's case is surprisingly profound, as most with Down's syndrome have higher functioning than he.  We've suspected some autism has contributed to learning delays as well, but that's not really something they could diagnose in a person like him, as it's impossible to determine the etiology.  My brother is 33, but his mentality seems to be perpetually stuck at the level of a 4 year old.  But there is not a day of his life, pre- or post-birth, that I would consider him without the right to live as fulfilling and happy a life as possible.

I'm sorry to hear about your brother's situation, and of course I'm not trying to imply he would have been better off aborted.  However, Trisomy 13 is generally much more deadly.

 

More than 80% of children with trisomy 13 die in the first year.

 

I have seen other statistics as high as 90-95%.  And while a five minute google search failed me, I know the percentage of babies that don't even survive the birth is very high.

Trisomy 13 babies have extremely severe birth defects, assuming they survive to birth.  I would never blame a parent for wanting to let nature take its course, but I would also never consider this reason to abort "unreasonable."

 

I am a believer in letting nature take its course.  Now in nursing school, we have several people in the hospital who have signed advanced directives stating that they are DNRs--"do not resuscitate" patients.  In other words, a patient may be suffering, but we don't kill them.  A term which is starting to replace DNR is AND--"allow natural death."  I like this better, and I feel the same should generally apply to a child as well.  While I do see the reasoning of trisomy 13 and other genetic defect-related abortions, I personally feel that every effort should be put forth to try to save the child, and simply "allow natural death," should it come to that.  There still are at least 5-10% of children who could live.  I wanted to say more, but I've not got the time.  I'll reply to other stuff later.

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#599044
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The thread where we make enemies out of friends, aka the abortion debate thread
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Well, I admit that upon my writing that, I wasn't considering genetic abnormalities.  Nevertheless, I don't consider genetic abnormalities to be a reasonable factor as well.  I have a brother with trisomy 21, aka Down's syndrome, so I am aware of them and their commonality.  My brother's case is surprisingly profound, as most with Down's syndrome have higher functioning than he.  We've suspected some autism has contributed to learning delays as well, but that's not really something they could diagnose in a person like him, as it's impossible to determine the etiology.  My brother is 33, but his mentality seems to be perpetually stuck at the level of a 4 year old.  But there is not a day of his life, pre- or post-birth, that I would consider him without the right to live as fulfilling and happy a life as possible.

I do thank you for providing another example, as I requested.  I know that no one's mind will change on this issue simply because of this thread.  But it did kind of irk me that Monolithium came in here and made a bump simply to say that I don't value freedom of will.  That sort of oversimplification of the opposite point of view is far too common.

And to preemptively defend myself, yes, I made an oversimplification, but I do not think mine was as drastic, and I think that the majority of abortions still relate to "convenience."  Perhaps it would be wise of me to seek out a poll to back that up.

Well, a quick Google search shows me this:

http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/statistics.asp

Here, the largest groups fall in the 15-19 year-olds, unmarried, lower educated (high school or associate's levels), low income, and without any other children.  A superficial viewing indicates to me that most are based on the inconvenience of the child at the time.  Lower down we see that most made the choice for reasons that could be lumped under the "convenience" category.  Most felt pressured to have the abortion by others, and many had doubts about their decision.  I encourage one and all to look at the link.

And that reminds me of President Obama's first week in office, taking over this country during it's "greatest financial crisis since the Great Depression."  What did he do with our already short funds?  He sent it to other countries to fund their abortions.

I am not opposed to educating people to be smart when having sex, but if Curiosity found microscopic life on Mars today, abortion advocates would likely value that life more and do everything to protect it more than they would a single fetus.  I certainly would not.

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#599028
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The thread where we make enemies out of friends, aka the abortion debate thread
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Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems that ultimately it all boils down to.  Excluding rape/incest/mother's health, which inevitably only account for a relatively small portion of all abortions, they all seem to fall under the categories I described.  Even a young pregnant teen has an abortion because of convenience...a child would interfere with her life, would be expensive, would be unloved and unwanted, would not have a father, or something else along those lines.  In other words, inconvenient.  If I'm wrong, I'd love some enlightenment.

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#598962
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The thread where we make enemies out of friends, aka the abortion debate thread
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Under what reasoning?  Of course all advocates say that.  This is the same old argument for 8 pages.  Why does the mom get the rights and the child not?  Why not reverse it and give the child rights and the mother not?

The real reasoning for abortion is that having a child would be inconvenient or painful for the mother.  To justify it, we say that an unborn child has no rights.

I had a similar argument with Warbler in the politics thread.  Rights are simply what we as a society define as morally correct and not.  Somehow abortion advocates believe that these rights do not come till birth or 20 weeks gestation or whatever.  I believe that these rights are inherent to all, regardless of their development.