Warbler

Possessed said:

I don’t have a therapist lol. I just talk to my two female friends who are both just slightly more than friends but less than being in a relationship with. (obviously, or else there would only be one of them…)

Possessed said:

Just wanted to let any concerned parties that today I went into treatment for alcoholism/substance abuse/depression/anxiety/generallybeingadebbiedowner.

if you truly went into to treatment, you would have gotten some sort of therapist or someone they said you could contract.

Bingowings said:

Warbler said:

This is the kind of talk you need to share with your therapist.

I agree but it’s also very welcome that people talk about this any and everywhere.

I agree.

This is the kind of talk you need to share with your therapist.

Bingowings said:

Warb, I have no idea if the poor kid is still alive physically but the nurse told me that there wasn’t much in the way of corrective therapy. His brain was damaged by the overdose. Physical therapy and surgery might have been able to stop some of his actions but in terms of the self it was just gone enough be beyond function but not still there enough to be restore

sorry to hear that. Very tragic.

It was truly horrific for me as a casual observer so heavens knows what his poor mother had to go through. It was her prescribed medication he used.

it must have been awful for the poor woman. I know at least one thing will always prevent me from committing suicide: what it would do to my family, especially my mom.

*reads through whole thread*

Bingowings said:

Talking, it doesn’t solve everything but it does keep the light of life on long enough for the chemistry to change.

When I first started talking to my therapist, it made things a lot better. It really didn’t solve much. But, I felt better getting it off my chest. It was nice to have someone finally know what I was going through and show a little sympathy. I had put up a front that everything was fine, when really I was in heartache and depressed. It felt good talking with someone that knew I was feeling that way.

If that guy had grabbed a phone instead of the wrong pills he would have a chance at a life with good days in it.

Do you know whether or not the guy survived?

Possessed said:

If you’re able to post on an internet forum and you aren’t suffering a terminal illness, your life isn’t ruined.

ok, in ruins then.

Bingowings said:

DuracellEnergizer said:

Emotional turmoil

/əˈmōSH(ə)n(ə)l ˈtərˌmoil/

noun

Learning that the unrequited love of your life is married, has children, and is a semi-professional writer, knowing that you’re happy for her, but realizing now more than ever that she is the perfect woman for you and utterly beyond your ability to obtain.

I’ve disclosed I’ve had some of this sort of thing myself.
Things to remind yourself. Loving someone and falling in love with someone are not the same thing.
The falling in love bit is a chemical biological response. It’s sort of like going a bit mad (note how insanity is a feature of many a love story and love song lyric/poem).
It will get better and it has very little to do with actual life expectations. The sheer number of heterosexual females that would be attracted to you and your own preferences must intersect with a significance that despite your current feelings you must accept rationally. Pure mathematical probability right?
Then comes your proclamation (doubtlessly heart felt) that this lady is the perfect woman for you.
Well that’s clearly not true. She is married with children and a career. Her becoming yours would be devastatingly traumatic for her and as someone who clearly likes her would be unpleasant to experience as you would see yourself as the origin of that disruption. You clearly admire much about her but she isn’t perfect for you. Someone else out there is. It’s a mathematical certainty.
It’s really difficult to remain rational when there is all that chemical stuff happening in your brain.
I recommend forcing yourself out and about, I recommend physical exercise, I recommend going to the Doctor and asking if there is something you are comfortable doing that might calm down those chemically triggered emotions (even if it’s just a really good relaxation group and not a tablet or three).
Finally find a human being who can talk to you with a voice and not just text.
Nothing beats peer support.
Your experience is unique to you but not unique in the world. Men have a terrible record about not actually talking about their feelings.
It will get better no matter how it feels now.

for once, I totally agree with Bingo, especially the bit about talking to someone. At one point in my life I needed to talk about my feelings to someone. But I didn’t. I kept them bundled up. It ended up terrible for. My life still hasn’t recovered fully from the consequences of keeping my feelings to myself instead of talking to someone. Don’t make the mistakes I made. Don’t let this become obsession, don’t keep your feelings bottled up. I’ve basically ruined my life. Don’t ruin yours.

my advice(based on passed experience love that was beyond ability to obtain): give it up and let it go. It will be better for you and her. Sorry, DuracellEnergizer.

I would like to b**** about mother nature(and perhaps my neighbor on the next street). Yesterday morning, we had a bad storm, lots of wind and rain. It knocked down a tree on the a neighboring street, and it knocked down power lines when it fell. My house was without power for almost 24 hours. I had a cold night. One person tells me that the tree was rotted. If that is the case, there is a good chance that the neighbor on whose property the tree was on, should have had it taken down before this! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

Neglify said:

Warbler said:

could someone please explain the joke?

Since the Prequels are so CGI-heavy and were almost completely filmed against blue screens, “de-specializing” it takes away the CGI, leaving you with a blue screen.

oooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

could someone please explain the joke?

*sigh* yet another crap thread.

US Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia 03/11/1936 - 02/13/2016

He served on the the US Supreme Court for about 29.5 years.

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/antonin-scalia-found-dead-article-1.2530791

I didn’t mean I want to restrain people from having fun.

well obviously, we disagree on that.

possibly, but leaving would be the extreme last resort, not the first option. The first option is complaining about the problem.

Possessed said:

Why stay if you think it’s gone to crap?

because I have been here fore over 10 years and this place has become special to me. It is my internet home. It would take a lot for me to leave.

TV’s Frink said:

Why should you?

I believe the normal response to having something you care about turn to crap, is to at the very least complain about it. So why shouldn’t I?

Why shouldn’t I complain about the fact that the off topic section has gone to crap?

this is a forum I have been a part for over ten years, with the exception of a break for a couple of year. You think I should just leave instead of complaining about these problems?

*sigh*

no, both. Even if I got whatever the joke is, I would still be sick and tired of what has happened to off topic.

by silly, I meant the meaningless nonsense threads and posts. I did not mean we had to get rid of humor.