Warbler said:
I am much more than 20 pounds overweight, its more like 100 pounds overweight with me. My hairline has also forsaken me. I don' know how you just go out and get a date. That seems impossible to me. But I will consider what you've said. Thanks.
100 sounds like a lot but that's only about 45kg or so, right? That seems manageable. If you wanna shed fast you'll need a hardcore workout but if you've got time to spare I recommend jogging. It definitely works.
I only do it from time to time but I definitely lose weight when I do. It wont really cost you anything and if you are body conscious then you can jog around your neighbourhood after dark - it should be light enough to see where you are going yet dark enough that people wont stare at you.
In the next town over there's a horse trotting track, in the cooler months I sometimes go with a friend and jog around that a few times. Although I did trip on a horse shoe one night..
You just need to stay hydrated and don't push yourself too hard too fast, start light and work your way up - you'll most likely need to rub down with a heat gel at least the first few times so your muscles don't ache.
oh and make sure you do some stretches to warm up and cool down.
The key thing is being motivated and the best thing for that is to try stick to a routine. set aside specific days and times for working out /. exercising, otherwise it is too easy to just let it slide and wind up watching tv instead.
A good routine for me is going out on a wednesday night around 8pm, meet up with friends, warm up, walk for a bit, jog a few kilometers, walk for a bit, cool down, load up on things like oats and yoghurt, watch an episode of something like battlestar galactica.
It's a lot more fun with others, see if you can convince anyone to join you?
I'm not saying it is easy but if you stick with it you will see results, I am pretty active but I'm a little overweight because I snack too often and skip proper breakfasts most days.