ChainsawAsh

moviefreakedmind said:

I’m shocked that on this site of all places, where complaints of loneliness are common, it is controversial to think that dating as it typically is in society today is a frustrating waste of time. I feel like Obama at the first debate in 2012 where he went in expecting the complete opposite of what would actually happen, so this reaction really caught me off guard.

It’s frustrating, but I don’t think it’s a waste of time. I go into dates as an upfront and honest person who’s not trying to gloss over my flaws or make myself out to be better than I am. I won’t deny that most people don’t do this, but I think everyone would be better off if we all did. At least this way if someone ends up not being interested, I know that they aren’t interested in me, not that I lied in the wrong way to hoodwink them.

But hey, if you want to be alone forever, then sure, dating’s a waste of time.

DuracellEnergizer said:

ChainsawAsh said:

Tyrphanax said:

ChainsawAsh said:

moviefreakedmind said:

DuracellEnergizer said:

moviefreakedmind said:

Not what I meant. I meant people should not play weird mind games and lie to each other for the first several months or years of their relationship.

Honestly, you generalize too damn much. You’re starting to sound like a parody of yourself.

Isn’t the whole point of dating to trick someone into thinking you’re more likable than you actually are? I’m just being brutally honest, at least that’s how I see my comments.

No, the point of dating is to find someone who likes you despite your flaws, and vice versa. It’s not about lying to hide your flaws, or at least it shouldn’t be. Better to be upfront and let it end early than drag it out and let it crash and burn much later when your lies are exposed.

This guy dates.

I don’t, actually, though not for lack of trying…

*sobs internally*

What have I told you about posting private videos of me in public?

chyron8472 said:

It’s not that I dislike science fiction. Ender’s Game is science fiction and I love that.

I guess wasn’t interested in the politics of Dune. Which… as I look at the synopsis on Wiki, seems to be much of the story. There are also a bunch of names and terms, and it was difficult for me to follow.

Granted I was listening and not reading so maybe reading it would have made things easier to track, but my wife said she had difficulty getting into it when she read it.

I would have kept listening had she not said anything, but I still don’t think I would have enjoyed it.

Politics are an aspect of it, but it is (or at least becomes) more an exploration of the philosophical and ethical ramifications of having power than actual politics, if that makes sense.

Tyrphanax said:

ChainsawAsh said:

moviefreakedmind said:

DuracellEnergizer said:

moviefreakedmind said:

Not what I meant. I meant people should not play weird mind games and lie to each other for the first several months or years of their relationship.

Honestly, you generalize too damn much. You’re starting to sound like a parody of yourself.

Isn’t the whole point of dating to trick someone into thinking you’re more likable than you actually are? I’m just being brutally honest, at least that’s how I see my comments.

No, the point of dating is to find someone who likes you despite your flaws, and vice versa. It’s not about lying to hide your flaws, or at least it shouldn’t be. Better to be upfront and let it end early than drag it out and let it crash and burn much later when your lies are exposed.

This guy dates.

I don’t, actually, though not for lack of trying…

*sobs internally*

ray_afraid said:

The Hobbit Part One (2012)
It’s really terrible.

If you think that, definitely don’t watch the other two. The first one is far and away the best of the three.

moviefreakedmind said:

DuracellEnergizer said:

moviefreakedmind said:

Not what I meant. I meant people should not play weird mind games and lie to each other for the first several months or years of their relationship.

Honestly, you generalize too damn much. You’re starting to sound like a parody of yourself.

Isn’t the whole point of dating to trick someone into thinking you’re more likable than you actually are? I’m just being brutally honest, at least that’s how I see my comments.

No, the point of dating is to find someone who likes you despite your flaws, and vice versa. It’s not about lying to hide your flaws, or at least it shouldn’t be. Better to be upfront and let it end early than drag it out and let it crash and burn much later when your lies are exposed.

chyron8472 said:

Dune is split up into 3 “books”. I told my wife I was getting to the end of book 1 but still didn’t know what was going on, or who these people are, or why I should care. She said she remembered reading Dune once upon a time and couldn’t get into it, and suggested I stop reading it. So I did.

JEDIT: War and Peace is such more interesting, coming back to it after the confusing snoozefest that was Dune.

You and I are enemies now.

Wouldn’t that fall under the purview of the bitching thread?

Hal 9000 said:

Rey kills Kylo Ren and they defeat the bad guys but for good this time.

… or is it?

Ron Howard said:

It wasn’t.

DuracellEnergizer said:

I feel in line

Possessed said:

The thing about online dating is it’s mostly losers

Yep.

sprinkled in with a few random people who are perfectly fine but are either down on their luck or in an area that’s hard to meet people or are just having trouble making the time to meet people.

Hey, that’s me! (I hope.)

But then those people will try it only to find that most everybody else on there… Well sucks. Then when they find a profile of a Decent person on there it’s usually abandoned because they gave up also. So then you give up.

Also very accurate.

It also sucks for different reasons for guys versus girls - girls get bombarded with asshole dudes sending unsolicited dick pics, demanding nudes, and/or being general creeps; while guys don’t ever get messages and, when we try to initiate conversation, are usually either ignored altogether, or have the entire burden of carrying a conversation. The last girl that actually responded to me, I managed to have a conversation with her for about a day before I realized that I was asking all the questions and her responses were all very short answers and a “How about you?” back. So I answered her last “And you?” and then waited for her to ask me something or otherwise carry a bit of the conversation, and…nothing.

Ugh.

Online dating sucks.

I know several trans people at various stages of transitioning, but I’m not super close with any of them so I can’t really offer any advice to you on that front other than to say that you’ve got my support!

What I will say is, figuring yourself out isn’t easy, so don’t rush into anything. Take some time to examine your thoughts and process your emotions about it. I wouldn’t come out to everyone until you’re more certain about things, but if you have someone close to you that you can talk to in order to help you through the “figuring shit out” part, that could be valuable.

I liked Oblivion a lot more than most people seemed to, as well.

Hal 9000 said:

Here’s a revised option B with a final “Hello?” at the end. I’m not sure it works better, though. Looking forward to your thoughts about which option B is the best option B.

https://vimeo.com/263147287
password: fanedit

Yep, I’m sold. If you’re going with option B, this is the one to go with.

I was 14.

Throwing in a recommendation for calorie counting and intermittent fasting, which is what mrebo was talking about with the “not eating between 8pm and lunch” bit. I’m currently doing much the same - I eat between noon and 8pm, and outside of those hours I consume no calories (though I make an exception for alcohol some nights).

Possessed said:

The dnr free 1080p version is out already.

Not final, it has issues that go back to the master file. And it’s not “out” to the public, just internally at the 4K77 forum, so those kind folks can spot problems like these before general release.

Plan is for all main versions to be released to the public simultaneously, but it won’t be long now (I’d be surprised if that didn’t happen this month).

And it’s not just SW77 - they just want to wrap up work on that one before moving on.

Though I should also point out that 4K77 and its related projects could not have happened as they have without Poita’s help and resources.

Yep, they always seemed like the best available players hands-down, but way out of my price range.

Possessed said:

I never use grindr, I think it tastes better and has a more mellow buzz if you just break it up with your fingers.

But then you don’t have that sweet, sweet kief saved up for when you’ve been dry for a while.

I forgot Grindr was a thing.

Apparently deactivating your Facebook account also deactivates your Tinder account. Huh. I mean, I guess it’s not like Tinder was doing me any good anyway…

Yeah, that plays a little better I think.

moviefreakedmind said:

I ask because I did once attempt to find a psychiatrist because I was pressured into it but he was fucking with me and playing mind games so I stopped trying to schedule an appointment. It seems to me like finding a counselor is like trying to get into Fight Club or something.

I specifically did not go to a psychiatrist because they’re the ones with medical doctorates that can prescribe medications, and that’s usually where they start. I wanted to see someone that didn’t have the ability to write a prescription so they’d be forced to actually talk to me and hear me out for a length of time, and if they thought i was in need of medication, then I could switch over to a psychiatrist for that.

Also:

paja said:

REPOST! Reported!