Channel72 said:
^ I think the fact you looked up the weather in Oklahoma may have sort of crossed the line, and come off as stalker-esque, intrusive behavior. That obviously wasn’t your intention, but it might come off that way, at least to a neutral, outside observer like myself. At the very least, confronting someone with “evidence” that runs contrary to what they’ve already told you will of course come off like an accusation, even if that wasn’t the intention.
I understand your point of view. To be honest, at first I was unsure whether or not to mention the fact that I had checked the temperature in Oklahoma, precisely because I thought she might take offense to it. However, I ultimately decided to include that part anyway, because I thought it would not have been a big deal. To be fair though, that point was a relatively minor detail in the message I sent. I didn’t focus entirely on it — I simply brought it up at the end to use it as an example before saying: “Are you sure you are telling me everything? If something is wrong, do not be afraid to tell me, because I want to be there for you.” Also, as I mentioned in my previous post, she and I have known each other for a year and a half. We are no longer strangers, and she knows how to read my behavior. I have always been incredibly patient with her, and I have consistently put her needs before my own. There were times when I wanted to continue our online role-playing games, but she wasn’t in the mood, and I was always willing to give her space. She knows this. So, if I am worried about her, it’s because I genuinely feel that something is wrong. It’s not impatience talking — it’s my intuition.