A place for self reflection. — Page 5

Were, not we’re. I was reflecting on my enjoyment of word games, silly! But since we’re on the topic of weird games, uh…what did you have in mind?

darth_ender said:

Were, not we’re. I was reflecting on my enjoyment of word games, silly! But since we’re on the topic of weird games, uh…what did you have in mind?

Apparently, I got that one word wrong, LOL. Sorry.

I sometimes ask myself what I would say if I were allowed the opportunity to travel back in time and speak to my teenaged self, but were only allowed around five minutes to do so before being yanked back to the present. I suppose I’d tell him this:

• Everyone is right, you’re wrong. Now start bathing everyday, not just on Sundays.
• You’ll never be a rocket scientist, but you’re no dumb ape either. Apply yourself, do your homework and complete your assignments on-time and to the best of your ability, get the best grades you can get, and strive towards graduation.
• Don’t sit on your lazy ass watching shitty episodes of Mutant X and say to yourself that a job is something you don’t have to worry about now 'cause it’s a concern for the future. Before you know it, the future will be now and then where will you be? Stuck living in a decaying shithole with a family you have nothing morally, spiritually, artistically, or intellectually in common with. Grown a pair, seek out a job, and prepare yourself for adulthood.
• You have homosexual tendencies within you. Don’t get all fearful and hateful; don’t become a loathsome homophobe. Accept those traits for what they are – a minor tinge in an otherwise wholly unshakable heterosexual make-up – and move on.
• You like a certain girl? Show her you possess sensitivity, thoughfulness, intelligence, and most of all respect for her as a woman and as a person. First impressions matter; don’t fuck up what can be a beautiful relationship – platonic or romantic – right from Day 1.
• Don’t allow your parents’ religion to define your reality, your morality, or your concept of God. Let the teachings of Christ and the findings of modern science inform you, not outmoded stories of gardens and trees and arks and floods and parting of seas.

suspiciouscoffee said:

EDIT: STUPID POST

There are no stupid posts here. If you need to get it out, get it out, no-one in this thread will heckle or taunt you for it.

😃

ray_afraid said:

DuracellEnergizer said:

I sometimes ask myself what I would say if I were allowed the opportunity to travel back in time and speak to my teenaged self, but were only allowed around five minutes to do so before being yanked back to the present. I suppose I’d tell him this:

• Everyone is right, you’re wrong. Now start bathing everyday, not just on Sundays.
• You’ll never be a rocket scientist, but you’re no dumb ape either. Apply yourself, do your homework and complete your assignments on-time and to the best of your ability, get the best grades you can get, and strive towards graduation.
• Don’t sit on your lazy ass watching shitty episodes of Mutant X and say to yourself that a job is something you don’t have to worry about now 'cause it’s a concern for the future. Before you know it, the future will be now and then where will you be? Stuck living in a decaying shithole with a family you have nothing morally, spiritually, artistically, or intellectually in common with. Grown a pair, seek out a job, and prepare yourself for adulthood.
• You have homosexual tendencies within you. Don’t get all fearful and hateful; don’t become a loathsome homophobe. Accept those traits for what they are – a minor tinge in an otherwise wholly unshakable heterosexual make-up – and move on.
• You like a certain girl? Show her you possess sensitivity, thoughfulness, intelligence, and most of all respect for her as a woman and as a person. First impressions matter; don’t fuck up what can be a beautiful relationship – platonic or romantic – right from Day 1.
• Don’t allow your parents’ religion to define your reality, your morality, or your concept of God. Let the teachings of Christ and the findings of modern science inform you, not outmoded stories of gardens and trees and arks and floods and parting of seas.

This advice is as good to you now as it would have been then. Put it to good use, buddy. We don’t know each other personally, but hearing you make positive progress in life would make me happy. I’m pullin’ for ya!

JEDIT: I hope this didn’t come off as mocking or whatever. DrCrowTstarwars gave me a complex about encouraging others.

I started getting a complex about encouraging others especially over the last year until I finally decided when the new rules came that I had enough. We should never discourage each other in such a manner as it only divides us.

I am glad to see other folks making use of this thread. Everyone is welcome and no-one is unimportant, no-one.

suspiciouscoffee said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

Jetrell Fo said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

EDIT: STUPID POST

There are no stupid posts here. If you need to get it out, get it out, no-one in this thread will heckle or taunt you for it.

😃

I wasn’t worried about heckling ot taunting, I just didn’t like it after posting it. It was a stupid post regardless of the potential eventual reaction to it.

To make a slightly less stupid post about the same point, let’s just say I often feel like I deserve a Mike Pence® Approved Shock Attack™.

EDIT: Okay, post just as stupid, but now thinly veiled in fake-ironic-humor and also slightly topical and current.

I would not wish any kind of attack on you, even if it was approved.

suspiciouscoffee said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

Jetrell Fo said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

EDIT: STUPID POST

There are no stupid posts here. If you need to get it out, get it out, no-one in this thread will heckle or taunt you for it.

😃

I wasn’t worried about heckling ot taunting, I just didn’t like it after posting it. It was a stupid post regardless of the potential eventual reaction to it.

To make a slightly less stupid post about the same point, let’s just say I often feel like I deserve a Mike Pence® Approved Shock Attack™.

EDIT: Okay, post just as stupid, but now thinly veiled in fake-ironic-humor and also slightly topical and current.

You don’t “deserve” anything but the right to be yourself (and for others to respect that).

There’s nothing wrong with whatever feelings you’re having anyone who says otherwise should just go fuck themselves.

Unless of course the feelings are leaving you towards systematically murdering everyone named Jim.

suspiciouscoffee said:

DominicCobb said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

Jetrell Fo said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

EDIT: STUPID POST

There are no stupid posts here. If you need to get it out, get it out, no-one in this thread will heckle or taunt you for it.

😃

I wasn’t worried about heckling ot taunting, I just didn’t like it after posting it. It was a stupid post regardless of the potential eventual reaction to it.

To make a slightly less stupid post about the same point, let’s just say I often feel like I deserve a Mike Pence® Approved Shock Attack™.

EDIT: Okay, post just as stupid, but now thinly veiled in fake-ironic-humor and also slightly topical and current.

You don’t “deserve” anything but the right to be yourself (and for others to respect that).

There’s nothing wrong with whatever feelings you’re having anyone who says otherwise should just go fuck themselves.

The thing is, I don’t want to be myself, or not the self I am right now. I want to feel normal and not like a dirty infidel. I have a hard time trying to reconcile my Christianity with my homosexual tendencies, and I’d be a much happier person if I could get rid of the latter. But I can’t AFAIK, no matter how much I’ve prayed about it in the last few years, so alas…

Okay, sorry for all the rambling. I’m in a bad mood tonight for several reasons, the others I won’t get into because they’re much longer stories.

I don’t know your personal battle with it because I am agnostic and a guy that is attracted to women. What I can say is this …

Only you can define yourself. As far as I know, most the gay friends I have, keep God in their life. They do not separate it because both are a part of who they are. You have support here even though we may not know everyone personally. We will listen and we will try to help you keep your head above water if you need it. Don’t beat yourself up. Stay true to yourself.

And most importantly … Be safe SC.

I’m with you too.

suspiciouscoffee said:

DominicCobb said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

Jetrell Fo said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

EDIT: STUPID POST

There are no stupid posts here. If you need to get it out, get it out, no-one in this thread will heckle or taunt you for it.

😃

I wasn’t worried about heckling ot taunting, I just didn’t like it after posting it. It was a stupid post regardless of the potential eventual reaction to it.

To make a slightly less stupid post about the same point, let’s just say I often feel like I deserve a Mike Pence® Approved Shock Attack™.

EDIT: Okay, post just as stupid, but now thinly veiled in fake-ironic-humor and also slightly topical and current.

You don’t “deserve” anything but the right to be yourself (and for others to respect that).

There’s nothing wrong with whatever feelings you’re having anyone who says otherwise should just go fuck themselves.

The thing is, I don’t want to be myself, or not the self I am right now. I want to feel normal and not like a dirty infidel.

No, sorry coffee. You’re brain is telling you don’t want to be yourself because other people have convinced you that it is wrong. What you’re feeling is completely natural, the only thing unnatural is the desire to wish away those feelings.

I have a hard time trying to reconcile my Christianity with my homosexual tendencies, and I’d be a much happier person if I could get rid of the latter. But I can’t AFAIK, no matter how much I’ve prayed about it in the last few years, so alas…

I know a number of people who have been able to reconcile their religion with their homosexuality. It’s not impossible, you can do it. If people tell you it can’t be done, don’t listen to them. I know plenty of Christian people who are very accepting of homosexuality. It’s not impossible. If people make you feel bad for wanting what’s deep down, either stop associating with them or don’t listen to them. They don’t want what’s best for you, they just want what’s best for their view of the world.

I’m atheist, but I was raised Catholic and I understand how the faith operates.

It is important to remember that the bible was written by men, not by god, and that it was interpreted by men, not by god. Just because people say you have to believe a certain way doesn’t mean your god wants you to. God loves everyone, no? You say you’ve prayed for years with no response. Well maybe you did get a response? Maybe this is his way of showing you that you are meant to be this way.

In the end, maybe you’re not gay, you’re just bi. Or maybe you’re not into guys at all? The thing is, only YOU can be the one to find that out for yourself. You can’t let others tell you how you’re supposed to feel (in this matter and in others). That’s up to you.

I agree with all of the posts above.

Contrary to what the fundagelicals say, it is possible to be a devout Christian and an open homo/bisexual. If the particular denomination/congregation you belong to isn’t willing to accept you as you are, try finding another which will.