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JackNapier said:

My mood for the past few days is Batman mourning his parents in an alleyway while sad music plays and the camera spirals around him.

I’ve been feeling the same way this past weekend, especially since the overturning of Roe might affect my life due to the start of my transgender journey early this year. Even now, I’m not sure what I’m going to do if my own rights get overturned.

However, what I do know is that despair and hopelessness are not solutions. At some point, you have to let go of bitterness, and get up. I know how hard that is, but you don’t get anywhere by worrying and being miserable all day. You get somewhere by, to paraphrase the late Hunter S. Thompson, buying the ticket and taking the ride.

I have altered Lucas’ visions. Pray I don’t alter them any further.

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Eyepainter said:

JackNapier said:

My mood for the past few days is Batman mourning his parents in an alleyway while sad music plays and the camera spirals around him.

I’ve been feeling the same way this past weekend, especially since the overturning of Roe might affect my life due to the start of my transgender journey early this year. Even now, I’m not sure what I’m going to do if my own rights get overturned.

However, what I do know is that despair and hopelessness are not solutions. At some point, you have to let go of bitterness, and get up. I know how hard that is, but you don’t get anywhere by worrying and being miserable all day. You get somewhere by, to paraphrase the late Hunter S. Thompson, buying the ticket and taking the ride.

Too true, and you have my support in your journey

I’m just a simple man trying to make my way in the universe.

Star Wars has 3 eras: The eras are 1977-1983(pre Expanded Universe), (1983-2014) expanded universe, or (2014- now) Disney-bought version. Each are valid.

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Right now I’m stuck between feeling numb, feeling down and seeing hope out of my funk just out of reach. In other words, it’s akin to Darth Vader staring at Padme’s grave and remembering a time when things felt less bleak.

I’m just a simple man trying to make my way in the universe.

Star Wars has 3 eras: The eras are 1977-1983(pre Expanded Universe), (1983-2014) expanded universe, or (2014- now) Disney-bought version. Each are valid.

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Sometimes the days get better, and then there’s days like this where I feel sad for what happened in the past and what I see in my future.

I’m just a simple man trying to make my way in the universe.

Star Wars has 3 eras: The eras are 1977-1983(pre Expanded Universe), (1983-2014) expanded universe, or (2014- now) Disney-bought version. Each are valid.

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Shoot, sorry to hear that, man. That’s never fun.

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RicOlie_2 said:

Shoot, sorry to hear that, man. That’s never fun.

Well I’ll miss it, but as one door closes so must the kool aid man break down the door.

I’m just a simple man trying to make my way in the universe.

Star Wars has 3 eras: The eras are 1977-1983(pre Expanded Universe), (1983-2014) expanded universe, or (2014- now) Disney-bought version. Each are valid.

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After getting out of an abusive friendship, I now realize just how lonely I was. I’ll never go back to him. He was evil. But now I feel like I don’t have anyone to talk to. I threw the few friends I had under the bus just to talk to this guy, and he absolutely destroyed me. Now I have nothing. Plus, I’m too afraid to talk to new people because now I have trust issues. I’ll never understand why he wanted to manipulate me so much. I gave him everything, and he treated me like garbage in return. On top of that, He was just pure evil. Once he committed pedophilia, thats when I was done. I can handle a lot, but I wont excuse such an evil crime. It’s been the same thing since I was in middle school. People don’t want to be my friend, they want to use me as a toy. Then when they get bored, they toss me aside like I was nothing. I don’t know if i’ll ever be able to trust anyone again…

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Sorry to hear that. That’s really rough… There are a lot of bad people out there. Fortunately, there are a lot of good people too. I hope one day you’ll have a genuinely fulfilling friendship.

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Just feeling like I can’t find any good romantic relationships or find friends. I’m too socially shy to talk to anyone my age. I can’t seem to self-advocate in a meaningful way when it comes to trying to hang out with my roommates in a way that doesn’t involve screens. Overall I’m feeling a general mixture of sad, bland, socially defeated and very mixed emotions.

I’m just a simple man trying to make my way in the universe.

Star Wars has 3 eras: The eras are 1977-1983(pre Expanded Universe), (1983-2014) expanded universe, or (2014- now) Disney-bought version. Each are valid.

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Answering questions, explaining things and helping people to understand things is not a real conversation. In the university I feel more like an encyclopedia than a human being. At least this is the main way in which people approach me and it is my fault, add that.

“Vader! Hologram, now!”

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I’m currently feeling unsatisfied with dating apps, I can’t find the spark that I used to find. I have felt too much rejection and insecurity with them and now I just can’t with apps right now.

I’m just a simple man trying to make my way in the universe.

Star Wars has 3 eras: The eras are 1977-1983(pre Expanded Universe), (1983-2014) expanded universe, or (2014- now) Disney-bought version. Each are valid.

Important voice tool:
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My cat is dying. She’s probably gonna get euthanized later this week. She barely moves or eats anymore, just sleeps all day. This has me so fucking depressed. I’ve spent nearly every day of my life with her for the past ten years or so.

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It’s always hard bearing the time with a pet as it passes on. I feel for you. I really do.

“The Anarchists are right in everything; in the negation of the existing order and in the assertion that, without Authority there could not be worse violence than that of Authority under existing conditions. They are mistaken only in thinking that anarchy can be instituted by a violent revolution… There can be only one permanent revolution — a moral one: the regeneration of the inner man. How is this revolution to take place? Nobody knows how it will take place in humanity, but every man feels it clearly in himself. And yet in our world everybody thinks of changing humanity, and nobody thinks of changing himself.”

― Leo Tolstoy

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I wish I could be part of a religion, but my conscience just won’t allow me to. My rationalist mode of thinking means that I find it almost impossible to accept something on blind faith. Why would you believe in one religion without evidence, when there are hundreds of other religions that have just as much of a basis in fact?

But more importantly, I find that the vast majority of religious teachings conflict drastically with my own moral and political views. This especially applies to matters of human sexuality. I’m a firm believer in the right to free sexual expression, including masturbation and pre-marital sex. But most religions, especially the Abrahamic ones, teach people to keep their natural urges bottled up inside. That’s an incredibly unhealthy mindset, in my opinion. And don’t get me started on how the Bible talks about homosexuality: let’s just say that, as a bisexual person, I do not like being referred to as an “abomination”.

My preferred Skywalker Saga experience:
I II III IV V VI VII VIII IX

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StarkillerAG said:

I wish I could be part of a religion, but my conscience just won’t allow me to. My rationalist mode of thinking means that I find it almost impossible to accept something on blind faith. Why would you believe in one religion without evidence, when there are hundreds of other religions that have just as much of a basis in fact?

But more importantly, I find that the vast majority of religious teachings conflict drastically with my own moral and political views. This especially applies to matters of human sexuality. I’m a firm believer in the right to free sexual expression, including masturbation and pre-marital sex. But most religions, especially the Abrahamic ones, teach people to keep their natural urges bottled up inside. That’s an incredibly unhealthy mindset, in my opinion. And don’t get me started on how the Bible talks about homosexuality: let’s just say that, as a bisexual person, I do not like being referred to as an “abomination”.

I feel you. Shit like this really fucked me hard (no pun intended). The only good thing that got out of it was that it made me stop PMOing for three months for fear of divine retribution (This was in 2019 during my long absence). I will admit I did feel mentally better (but that’s a different story for a different time), but I will say that mentally scarred me quite a bit, and I only recovered in 2021/2022. My rant on sexual-related matters in 2020/2021 were because of that 'orrible mindset from some stupid ass books I read from this stupid ass cult masquerading as ‘a statement of fact’. I won’t disclose what it was just yet for privacy reasons, but I will leave you with the absolutely brilliant line “chastity is life and sexuality is death”.

But I will say that religions ARE right on matters such as internet porn.

When’s something gonna happen?

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From my personal experience lack of sexual activity is bad for you.

I find it really frustrating to hear how sex is a natural part of life yet the physical act itself has eluded me throughout my entire adult life. I only had sex once when I was 18 with a prostitute, an experience I didn’t find particularly enjoyable per my own admission, yet I hoped this would finally open the floodgates for me so to speak, however it didn’t happen, and my sexual journey has amounted to that one time and over two decades of masturbation. Witnessing friends and acquaintances enjoy far more fulfilling sex lives than me while I’m always being left out. This has inevitably built up a lot of anger, frustration and bitterness in me, particularly in the last three years. I remember feeling this big fear during the Covid Pandemic of never getting to enjoy sex to the fullest.

As I turn 35 years old I must tell you guys, I am so fucking tired of being the loser who can’t get laid, and can’t seem to find a way to change that. Why is it so fucking hard for me find a suitable sexual partner? Am I doomed to be one of those people who dies sexually unfulfilled?

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From what I’ve learned… the biggest thing when it comes to sexual fulfillment is forming meaningful connections first. The most meaningful connections take time, and they are not the easiest to find though.

I struggled with depression heavily in my high school years (still do today but for different reasons) as all my friends had girlfriends and we’re getting laid regularly. I was afraid to do anything or say anything over fear of rejection. Once in college, I turned the anger and jealously into action, and decided to open up my feelings and just be honest from the start of what I was looking for with girls who I was friends with or was getting close to. The fear of rejection needs to go.

It’s not the easiest thing in any way, but seeking out girls who have similar interests and presenting yourself for who you are goes a long way. Eventually, when you open up, you’ll find a girl accepting of what you want and willing to give it, and letting a relationship grow. It will definitely take a few tries, and you’ll need to push yourself.

Be honest, be clean (good hygiene goes a longggggg way), and be yourself.

Coming from someone who thought they were destined to be alone forever, I found the best girl in the world for me that accepts me, pushes me to be better, and loves me for me.

Hang in there, be yourself and don’t be afraid. You got this.

The Skywalker Saga:
I · II · III · IV · V · VI · VII · VIII · IX
This is the way.

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DZ-330 said:

From what I’ve learned… the biggest thing when it comes to sexual fulfillment is forming meaningful connections first. The most meaningful connections take time, and they are not the easiest to find though.

I struggled with depression heavily in my high school years (still do today but for different reasons) as all my friends had girlfriends and we’re getting laid regularly. I was afraid to do anything or say anything over fear of rejection. Once in college, I turned the anger and jealously into action, and decided to open up my feelings and just be honest from the start of what I was looking for with girls who I was friends with or was getting close to. The fear of rejection needs to go.

It’s not the easiest thing in any way, but seeking out girls who have similar interests and presenting yourself for who you are goes a long way. Eventually, when you open up, you’ll find a girl accepting of what you want and willing to give it, and letting a relationship grow. It will definitely take a few tries, and you’ll need to push yourself.

Be honest, be clean (good hygiene goes a longggggg way), and be yourself.

Coming from someone who thought they were destined to be alone forever, I found the best girl in the world for me that accepts me, pushes me to be better, and loves me for me.

Hang in there, be yourself and don’t be afraid. You got this.

If there’s one thing I did learn about my one time it’s that it made me realize I’m far more interested in giving pleasure than in receiving it, which is why it’s very unlikely I’ll ever hire another prostitute, as you pay them to receive pleasure.

Just to be clear BTW, I want a purely physical relationship. I’m also fully aware reciprocity is key, as I want a woman who’s into me as much as I’m into her. Think Last Tango in Paris minus the whole getting killed in the end.

I also want multiple partners, as I feel I’ve missed out on way too much and want to make up for lost time.

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fmalover said:

If there’s one thing I did learn about my one time it’s that it made me realize I’m far more interested in giving pleasure than in receiving, which is why it’s very unlikely I’ll ever hire another prostitute, as you pay them to receive pleasure.

Just to be clear BTW, I want a purely physical relationship. I’m also fully aware reciprocity is key, as I want a woman who’s into me as much as I’m into her. Think Last Tango in Paris minus the whole getting killed in the end.

Giving is much better than receiving 😉

The Skywalker Saga:
I · II · III · IV · V · VI · VII · VIII · IX
This is the way.

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DZ-330 said:

fmalover said:

If there’s one thing I did learn about my one time it’s that it made me realize I’m far more interested in giving pleasure than in receiving, which is why it’s very unlikely I’ll ever hire another prostitute, as you pay them to receive pleasure.

Just to be clear BTW, I want a purely physical relationship. I’m also fully aware reciprocity is key, as I want a woman who’s into me as much as I’m into her. Think Last Tango in Paris minus the whole getting killed in the end.

Giving is much better than receiving 😉

Yeah. That’s the sort of reputation I want to have among women, as the guy who can give them a really great time in bed.

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fmalover said:

Yeah. That’s the sort of reputation I want to have among women, as the guy who can give them a really great time in bed.

Agreed, that’s how I got two at the same time… but that’s a story for a different thread 😁

The Skywalker Saga:
I · II · III · IV · V · VI · VII · VIII · IX
This is the way.

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StarkillerAG said:

I wish I could be part of a religion, but my conscience just won’t allow me to. My rationalist mode of thinking means that I find it almost impossible to accept something on blind faith. Why would you believe in one religion without evidence, when there are hundreds of other religions that have just as much of a basis in fact?

But more importantly, I find that the vast majority of religious teachings conflict drastically with my own moral and political views. This especially applies to matters of human sexuality. I’m a firm believer in the right to free sexual expression, including masturbation and pre-marital sex. But most religions, especially the Abrahamic ones, teach people to keep their natural urges bottled up inside. That’s an incredibly unhealthy mindset, in my opinion. And don’t get me started on how the Bible talks about homosexuality: let’s just say that, as a bisexual person, I do not like being referred to as an “abomination”.

As someone who was raised in a fundamentalist Christian cult, experienced a crisis of faith which led to agnosticism, and has since come to identify as perennialist (with various & sundry adjectives), I find this perspective both familiar and alien. That’s what makes it so difficult for me to discuss religion/spirituality with people who haven’t walked a similar path.

All I can really suggest is don’t presume inerrantist/exclusivist forms of religion are “true” religion. Seek out the perspectives of theological progressives. Since my background’s Christian, that’s the perspective I’m most familiar with. I highly recommend checking out The Bible for Normal People and Homebrewed Christianity podcasts, and Marcus Borg’s books Reading the Bible Again for the First Time and The God We Never Knew. I’m also a fan of the Let’s Talk Religion YouTube channel; he covers various religious perspectives, though has an especial fondness for Sufism.

“The Anarchists are right in everything; in the negation of the existing order and in the assertion that, without Authority there could not be worse violence than that of Authority under existing conditions. They are mistaken only in thinking that anarchy can be instituted by a violent revolution… There can be only one permanent revolution — a moral one: the regeneration of the inner man. How is this revolution to take place? Nobody knows how it will take place in humanity, but every man feels it clearly in himself. And yet in our world everybody thinks of changing humanity, and nobody thinks of changing himself.”

― Leo Tolstoy

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I think I might be a misogynist (or at least have sexist views) and I don’t know what to do and hate that I can’t change. This is what feeling ostracized as a child and having little female role models can do. Why? Why? Why? I’m such a joke.

I am a worthless person who hates everyone who doesn’t share the same identity as me. When I start to get a bit better, I fuck it all up.

When’s something gonna happen?