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#739526
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The thread for the serious discussion that started in the "Am I a Bully?" thread.
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I think DrCrow is making plenty of valid points, and I agree with him on several of them, though certainly not all.

Something that must be taken into consideration here is that bullying may have a vastly different effect on one person to another. Now that I've thought of it, I realize there have been several times I have been bullied and times I have participated in bullying, but the former never got to me. I participated in bullying a few times at a point in my life in which I was trying to fit in too much. I had been socially awkward and felt out of place before that, and I went too far in the other direction. I made a decision to change, and be an individual rather than part of the crowd after realizing where I had gone wrong.

Warbler strikes me as a sensitive, emotional kind of guy (I'm in no way insinuating that those are negative characteristics), and he is thus far more likely to be affected by personal attacks and bullying. DrCrow seems far less so, and quite resembles a sociopathic friend of mine in the way he often writes. I don't mean to imagine any psychological problems onto him, but merely intend to observe that he doesn't seem to be the type who would be as affected by bullying.

So the solution does not lie in his proposal (not fully, anyhow), nor entirely in Warbler's, who has a very negative view of bullies. Some people can get by by being taught to deal with bullies. Others, need to have other help.

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The thread for the serious discussion that started in the "Am I a Bully?" thread.
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I didn't say that there shouldn't be consequences for their actions--indeed, I said that they need to learn that what they are doing is wrong--but I think more emphasis should be placed on helping the bullies (but not at the expense of helping the victims) than there is now. Bullies are victims in their own way. Thus, it is important to tackle the problem from both sides, helping both the victims and the bullies, rather than criminalizing the bullies, which only furthers the problem rather than solving it.

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The thread for the serious discussion that started in the "Am I a Bully?" thread.
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I think I have to agree with the opinion that people need to be taught how to cope with bullies. There is just no way to prevent bullying, and since bullies are among the most insecure kids, bullying them into not bullying just won't work. They need to not be treated like criminals, since that will just add to their insecurity, and to the bullying problem. Now, I do not mean that bullies should be treated like they're the good guys and their victims should be told to suck it up. Indeed, stopping bullying is a good thing to do, so far as it is possible. The problem is, as I stated above, that it is not possible, so it is necessary to attack the issue from both sides.

I've never been bullied, nor have I been a bully, so the whole bullying issue isn't as personal for me as it is for some. Thus, my opinions on bullying are in no way fixed, but are a result of personal observation.

One of my little brothers can be a bit of a bully sometimes, and I know for a fact that treating him like the bad guy all the time would not help at all. He needs to learn that what he is doing is wrong, and will not solve any problems, but he also needs help with self-confidence, as well as being given more attention, so that he doesn't feel the need to bully out of insecurity.

Just keep in mind that most bullies have personal problems, or have been brought up in such a way that they have become that way. They didn't sit down and decide to be mean. Nor do most of them do it just for the sake of hurting people. Therefore, helping them, as soon as they begin bullying, if possible, is at least as necessary as helping the victims.

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#739085
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Episode VII: The Force Awakens - Discussion * <strong>SPOILER THREAD</strong> *
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NeverarGreat

...at staying up-to-date

RE: THE FORCE AWAKENS (Episode VII) Discussion *SPOILER THREAD* Teaser Trailer Has Been Released, See OP For Links
December 3, 2014
8:03 PM
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*braces himself for a stern warning from Anchorhead*

;)

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#738910
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Ask the non-member of all churches AKA Interrogate the atheist
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thejediknighthusezni said:

TV's Frink said:

thejediknighthusezni said:

      I recall an international survey done in the early 80's, I believe. They had set out to study the differences in moral systems between tremendously differing faiths and cultures.

      They wound up discovering an essential commonality of belief all over the world. It was basically The Ten Commandments, with or without Sabbath keeping and One God exclusively.

 C'mon, that's what the homosexuals made you say.

        Yep...........Well, except for not commiting adultery and coveting your neighbor's ass.

 Did you just make a joke?

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#738837
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STOP!!
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Warbler said:

RicOlie_2 said:

Vous devez attend d'utilise les toilettes aussi, oiseau !

 this is what I got from google translate:

You should expect to use the toilet as bird!

 Google Translate has failed you once again. The sentence, in English, is "You must wait to use the toilets too, bird!" Translate my response to the quest question if you want context.

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#738836
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STOP!!
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Leonardo said:

SILENZIO, O FACCIO SGOMBRARE IL PONTE!

RicOlie_2 said:

Leonardo said:

WHAT... is your quest?

 Les toilettes sont à l'autre côté du pont, et je suis trop raffiné d'uriner en plein air, donc je dois croiser toute suite !

 WHAT... is your usual recovery time after falling on your face?

 Sur du béton, de l'eau, des sables mouvants...? Il dépend vraiment de quel matérial. Généralement, c'est probablement dix seconds.