I didn’t really care about the Academy Awards this year, with the one exception being Lady Bird - which I haven’t yet seen but which is steeped in my home town of Sacramento (and which of course I therefore intend to see).
But one issue I had is with regards to “Call Me by Your Name”. I saw it in the theater partly because my wife really wanted to see it, and also because we had heard that it was great. There is no doubt that it is a beautiful movie, all taking place in one of my favorite parts of the world. The cinematography, scenery, photography, and color were all amazing. And I absolutely have no problem whatsoever with gays being prominently portrayed in popular films, in whatever manner. However, by the end of the film I found myself very bothered by this particular movie, and by the next day even a bit angered by it. I’m glad that it didn’t win best picture, and so at the risk of losing my lifetime membership in the liberal club, let me explain why:
My problem has nothing to do with the two protagonists being gay, or with their activities in full display. Rather, it has to do with their ages, and the behavior of the boy’s parents. Today, Hollywood is trying to extricate itself from a longstanding culture of sexual oppression. The film portrays a relationship between a minor and an adult friend of the minor’s family. I found it utterly inconceivable that the parents, clearly knowing that this was taking place right under their roof, were totally ok with it and even encouraging it. I can’t imagine any parent behaving this way - generally parents are very protective of their children from predatory adults, as well they should be. At the end of the movie, the boy’s father told his son what I thought was a largely incomprehensible and certainly highly unrealistic “speech”, basically saying how beautiful the experience was and implying that he was jealous of it. Again, I couldn’t imagine any parent behaving in this way.
As we left the theater, I noticed that about half of the people in the small audience were rather scuzzy-looking older men, viewing the movie by themselves. I even wondered if this was some sort of soft-porn film pushing NMBLA values, and suggesting that parents should be OK and even encourage their kids to engage in sexual relationships with adults – basically to not interfere if uncle Roy wants to get off with your son. From the looks of the audience, it sure appeared to be serving that demographic. What a strange product for Hollywood to be putting on a pedestal, at this of all times while they are facing so many charges of sexual misconduct.
In reading the movie reviews on IMDB, it seems that about 90% of the reviews are wildly positive, with about 10% of respondents exactly echoing my concerns. Some of those negative reviews were even written by gay viewers. Did anyone here get the same vibe that I did? Or have I just lost my cultural sensitivity permit?