I can't speak for everyone, but my enjoyment of ST 09 stemmed purely from the film itself, not from the media. I've never given two rips about the media's opinion of any film.
As for similarities to Nemesis (can't comment on Enterprise; I watched the first two episodes and then stopped on account of their cringe-worthiness), those that you list are merely overlapping plot-points. It was not, IMO, the presence of those plot-points in Nemesis that wrecked it, but lousy direction, uninteresting characterization, overabundant pandering, a generally stupid script, etc. In the final appraisal, I found Nemesis to be an uninteresting and disappointing viewing experience, while I found ST 09 to be a fun and engaging action-adventure romp in outer space (which is basically what TOS consisted of, before the introduction of more cerebral elements into the franchise beginning with TNG) with relatable characters, good pacing that produced genuine momentum and suspense, and believable dialogue. And I didn't need the media to make that determination for me (actually, I don't recall reading any reviews prior to my first viewing).
Sure, I'll grant that there were a few groanworthy moments, but my impression was that they were the exception rather than the rule, and that generally speaking it was a quality film.