I have a friend who wants to kill herself. In a very violent way. And I can’t seem to talk her out of it.
I you think that she is a danger to herself (or others) then you should call the proper authorities.
As someone who has gone through the same thing and had someone call the authorities on me I endorse this course of action. There’s quite a few things I’ve experienced that I wouldn’t have had I done something as drastic as suicide.
If someone is suicidal, you won’t be able to just say the magic words to make them happy again, so don’t rely on your own ability to help them. That’s what professionals are for.
The Person in Question
That’s why I said I endorse calling the proper authorities as you said. Even if the person resents Trident for the time being he still can save her and everything she will eventually become.
I have a friend who wants to kill herself. In a very violent way. And I can’t seem to talk her out of it.
If you think that she is a danger to herself (or others) then you should call the proper authorities.
^very this. She might not thank you for it but it will give her a bit more time to rationalise these compulsions. Theatrical suicide attempts tend to endanger people other than the instigator. You may save more than one life.
I have a friend who wants to kill herself. In a very violent way. And I can’t seem to talk her out of it.
Why does she want to do this?
Because she passionately hates her life choices. She hates what she’s done in the past. And she hates who she is now. She wants her death to be violent so it’ll make up for her violent wants. It’s a tough thing to read a friend pour out. I mean it’s dark as fuck.
I don’t know.
Edit: This is someone I spend a lot of time talking to on another site.
K. Let’s have this ride.
Thanks for the advice guys. I mean I needed to hear the obvious. I was just in shock. I still am I guess. Because she’s never been like that before. But I’ll see what I can figure out.
Peace guys.
-Trident
K. Let’s have this ride.
Yes, get her help. Immediately. It could save her life.
I have a friend who wants to kill herself. In a very violent way. And I can’t seem to talk her out of it.
Why does she want to do this?
Because she passionately hates her life choices. She hates what she’s done in the past. And she hates who she is now. She wants her death to be violent so it’ll make up for her violent wants. It’s a tough thing to read a friend pour out. I mean it’s dark as fuck.
This is definitely fixable seeing as how she can make different life choices and she certainly can change who is. A radio host who goes by the name Charlamagne Tha God says every now and again that “Malcolm X used to be Malcolm Little” so it is more than possible to go through a metamorphosis in life especially if this person is young. She might need to cut off her friends or find a new job/switch majors etc. but having an image in her mind of who she wants to be and making strides towards it not only in her choices but her mind/thought pattern is vastly important. Now the violent part leaves no doubt as to the fact that you need to call the authorities because the whole “She wants her death to be violent so it’ll make up for her violent wants” thing sounds like another problem she may need to work out. Also who would want to stumble up someone who viciously killed her/himself
I don’t know.
Edit: This is someone I spend a lot of time talking to on another site.
Well if you do (and hopefully you do) call the proper authorities they can track her down unless she uses like 10 VPN’s or something.
I am at work as an RN on my behavioral health floor at my hospital with several suicidal patients. I take this stuff seriously. You should too. Get her help. Save her. Others have said all truth.
I have been mentally ill before. It was about 3 years ago. I thought the new Pope was Jesus. Pretty debilitating and took me a long time to recover (i.e. escape mental illness), but fairly harmless.
Never once did I have suicidal thoughts. Suicidal thoughts=direct intervention needed. Black and white.
-TM
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I agree with all the others here. Call the proper authorities. She needs more help than you can give her. She maybe angry with you, but it may save her life.
As someone who knows several people who have committed suicide when I was younger and too self-absorbed to notice something was very off, get her help.
She may hate you for a time but I assure you it’s much better than living with the regret of doing nothing.
When I found out my (now ex) long term partner was sleeping with my (now ex) childhood bestfriend and spread some very malicious lies about me some time ago my body pretty much shut down.
Despite the fact that she was both physically and emotionally abusive to me while we were living together, which was bad enough as is, what may have been worse was that nobody believed me because society likes to rile behind the “damsel in distress”, so I lost almost all my friends because those two toxic people knew how shitty they looked in that situation to everyone and wanted to counter it by saying unforgivable things about me.
Never mind that I would rather die than ever actually do what they claimed I did to someone; none of that mattered because men can’t be victims, apparently.
Things like that really show you who your true friends are, and if not for them (and the companionship of my cat), I probably would have done something very, very stupid.
I’m now exponentially happier and am dating someone who I’m quite fond of, to say the least, and a big part of it is thanks to the people who helped me.
Please find her help, even if she’s angry now she’ll be eternally grateful later.
Ryan-SWI said:
Please find her help, even if she’s angry now she’ll be eternally grateful later.
I don’t think he knows who she is. He said he communes with her on a forum website.
The Person in Question
Ryan-SWI said:
Please find her help, even if she’s angry now she’ll be eternally grateful later.I don’t think he knows who she is. He said he communes with her on a forum website.
Internet friends can be friends too 😉
Thanks Ryan.
And you guys? Thanks so much.
She’s my girl Friday. She’s my pal. Has been for a bit now. But I’ve lost my mind with this.
You have to understand. I’ve lost 3 friends to suicide. One of them my sweet sweet girl. Tomorrow’s the anniversary of the cause. I was the cause. I was. So this is poison to me. To deal with this again is acid in my eyes. And she knew that. This is why I can’t even start up this hill. I’m coming undone with this. So I’ll do what I can. But honestly? I tried. I tried before. I’ve failed every time.
Peace guys.
-Trident
K. Let’s have this ride.
No one is saying that you yourself should save her. Everyone is saying that you should call the proper authorities. If that fails it is not your fault. So don’t blame yourself.
Like I said, suicide cases need to be dealt with by trained professionals. No one can just say the magic words and make a person stop considering suicide. Even if you cheer them up in one instance, the root cause hasn’t been addressed.
The Person in Question
I know Warb. I know. I just don’t want to know what happens next. I’ve stopped going to that other site. I almost sent a message to the admin. I feel like I’m failing no matter what way I face in this. I tried to talk to her yesterday and I just ended up breaking down. I didn’t get the first thing said that I wanted to. I just ended up telling her to go get help. That I couldn’t help her. That I couldn’t even be there for her.
I’m a bit of a case. So I was no one she should’ve been leaning on anyway. But now of course I just feel like I’ve abandoned her instead of helping. It’s just I can’t do it again.
Thanks though. I’m glad you guys are here to give me a hand here. Especially when I get this way.
Peace Warbler.
-Trident
K. Let’s have this ride.
@Trident: I’ve kept quiet on the subject of your situation because I haven’t anything to add, but I would like to say that I’ll keep this in my prayers.
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@Trident: I’ve kept quiet on the subject of your situation because I haven’t anything to add, but I would like to say that I’ll keep this in my prayers.
me too.
Like I said, suicide cases need to be dealt with by trained professionals. No one can just say the magic words and make a person stop considering suicide. Even if you cheer them up in one instance, the root cause hasn’t been addressed.
exactly.
Trident said:
But now of course I just feel like I’ve abandoned her instead of helping.-Trident
If you go to the proper authorities, it is not abandoning her. It is the exact opposite.
Thanks guys. Especially for the prayers. I think they helped. Because I accidentally hit my link to my PMs on the other site and read that she’s promised she won’t kill herself. That it was just a lot of frustration coming out about what she’s going through. But just the same I’m glad enough to have gotten the ball rolling towards her on that anyway. I don’t want her to feel like she’d ever be ignored if she did call out in need. I’m glad she’s Ok for now. But man. It was a bit of a rough trip. And graphic.
I don’t know where we’ll land next. I’ll keep you all posted though. But I’m pretty relieved it wasn’t as far along as it looked.
Anyway. That’s where it’s at for now.
Peace guys. Thanks for the support. I was sort of climbing the walls with this.
-Trident
K. Let’s have this ride.
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K. Let’s have this ride.
Well if you do (and hopefully you do) call the proper authorities they can track her down unless she uses like 10 VPN’s or something.
Which is why I don’t post my thoughts in this thread anymore.
However, everybody here is right. Your friend needs help that you simply can’t give. But regardless of what happens it isn’t your fault.