The Place to Go for Emotional Support — Page 102

That’s not really healthy you know.

And I’m sure you do.

On Sunday night I finally got the courage to call the love of my life. We were very happy together but she left me due to emotional issues of her own. But I still love her. And I hope she still loves me. The conversation on Sunday night went great. Talked almost an hour. I asked if I could call her again yesterday and she said yes but she didn’t answer. Tried again today no answer. I know there’s an infinite number of logical things it could be. Yesterday was a holiday. She has a child etc. But I’m me and I can’t help but assume the worst, that she doesn’t love me anymore. And I can’t take it. I can’t take it. She gave light to my world that was otherwise covered in darkness. The year -ish we were together was the only happy times of my entire fucking life. I can’t live without her. I can’t. I hate my life without her in it. I hate the universe for letting me experience happiness for a short while in a girl so amazing it had to be too good to be true. And I guess it was. I can’t live without her. And I know I’m going to be miserable forever. I might as well save everyone the fucking grief.

hello possessed. it’s pretty hard for me to give you any sort of advice since i’ve been feeling sort of the same way myself. not only that, but i’ve only been in one relationship in my life, so… yeah.

but i will tell you, that you’re a really nice guy, and that you don’t deserve any of that. i’ve always heard that time can cure anything, and it really can, so maybe try giving it time. and try to be strong now. we’ll be here for you. and, you know, i don’t think she is avoiding you at all, or that she doesn’t want to talk to you, or anything like that. if she was as good to you as you’re saying, i don’t think she’d be doing that to you now at all. maybe something has gotten in the way. probably, actually. then again, maybe not - but i am hoping for the best for you. and if she’s the best for you, then man i hope with all my heart that you guys get back together.

but… it is never good to be that emotionally dependent on anyone. ever. try to be rational man. yes, she’s perfect for you, but i am sure that there are other just as perfect girls out there. it’s pretty hard to accept that right now (or to even want to accept that), but often times it is true too. so, possessed, if it doesn’t work out between you and her, it will between you and someone else. have faith. be strong. and give it time.

possibly shitty advice incoming: all that said, i’m not one who gives up, so i think you should keep trying to reach her. again, i think that something got in the way and that that’s the reason why she didn’t answer yesterday or today. like you said, there’s an infinite number of logical things it could be. so try to reach her again, i remember when you said you guys broke up - and iirc, it wasn’t because she stopped loving you or didn’t want to be with you anymore because it wasn’t working out. and, honestly, i don’t think she ever will stop loving you. from my limited experience, that’s not how these things go.

and you’ll be happy again pal. i believe that. seek out joy in life, and maybe you might end up finding it, not centered around a person, like her. who knows. try to be happy with yourself.

we’re here for you, possessed. i’m here for you. things will work out. don’t do anything stupid, man. we care for you.

i wish you the best. and sorry if this was unhelpful or stupid, but i just want you to know that maybe your way will work out, and that if it doesn’t, there are other ways with other people, and that we will be here for you.

I appreciate it. I don’t know though. I was miserable my whole life before her. It’s almost like she gave me life. I’ve no reason to think I’ll ever be okay without her.

well, things change.

Not this time.

Ash, Possessed, my heart goes out to you. You’re decent guys, and it sucks that you’re having a rough go at it, as Jason might say (the phrase felt right). I can relate to both of you, to a degree. So, at least we’re not alone in being alone.

I’m going to have to agree with mfm above, though. If you spend your time seeking the affection of someone who isn’t able to give it, for one reason or another, you’re just going to get hurt. Depending on the circumstances, remaining friends can be feasible, but before that happens, you have to move on.

Sorry if that came off as a bit of a lecture. It just sucks to see you hurt so much.

I feel like shit. I want to embrace my sexuality and all that, but I’m still deeply closeted, and I live in the most conservative, non-progressive part of the state. And, supposedly, the place I’m moving to in a few months (for work reasons) is the ‘most conservative city in America.’

I don’t know if any of you can help me, but I just need to get my feelings out there.

my stepgrandfather passed away sunday night. it was a peaceful death after years of tough fight with cancer, which i hope made it easier on him, but it sure seems cold comfort to me, because he’s gone now, and i miss him. i only found out he passed away earlier today, days after it happened, and that’s because i don’t really have as much contact with that part of the family anymore (it’s complicated), but he was always there for me and we always had an awesome relationship and really good talks about pretty much everything. he was a very, very nice and kind guy and i hope that he rests in peace.

Aw sorry man.

Sorry to hear that, Collipso.

I can’t imagine how that would feel. Very sorry for your loss.

thanks guys. that means a lot.

May the force be with you.

Always.

I can’t imagine your pain, but you have my sympathies.