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The male version of the blob?

I just pretend to be homosexual or have crab lice of pretend to be homosexual crab lice.

"I'm not gay, but I'll learn."

I've had crushes on nine girls, and I can remember the names of each of them and the order in which I crushed on them (this includes the one I actually fell in love with).

Name: Brandy (last name forgotten); Crush Date: 1997-1998

All I really remember of her is that she had long, blonde hair and an older sister who could have been her twin if it weren't for the fact that she was taller and brunette. My latent heterosexuality hadn't yet kicked in at that point in my life, so it was a purely heteroromantic asexual attraction.

Name: Sarah Gibson; Crush Date: 1998/1999

In retrospect, I don't know what I ever saw in her; she had a lousy personality, a dog's face, and an anorexic's body. This was yet another heteroromantic asexual attraction.

Name: Candace Roland/Rowland; Crush Date: 1999/2000-2001

She was blonde, had a nice figure, but an unappealing complexion. This was my first completely heterosexual crush.

Name: Dania Wilson-Holland; Crush Date: 2001-2008(?)

I've commented on her before elsewhere on this forum, so all I'll say is that this is the only crush I've ever had that developed into something that wasn't fleeting.

Name: Lauren Lee Smith; Crush Date: 2002-2005

This is my first crush on a celebrity (or should I say pseudo-celebrity) and not on a person I actually knew. She's a minor Canadian actress who, while being rather pretty, is a bit too much on the skinny side for my current tastes.

Name: Jennifer Peterson-Hind; Crush Date: 2007-2009

Another pseudo-celebrity - a singer, this time around. I got the hots for her after seeing her on the kids' TV show Hi-5.

Name: Brianna (last name unknown); Crush Date: 2008

I met her while working as a dishwasher at a local restaurant. She was a tall, trim, brunette server. I never really got the chance to know her, conflicting work schedules eventually prevented us from ever getting the chance to do so, and once I got laid off all bets were off. I'm still mad about this one, as this was the only time I had the chance to make a good first impression on a girl I liked.

Name: Alanis Morissette; Crush Date: 2008-2010

This was more of a crush on the 1991-1992 Alanis than the 1995-present day Alanis; it's not pleasant being attracted to a woman who doesn't really exist anymore.

Name: Heather Langenkamp; Crush Date: present

This is yet another example of me having a crush on a woman who doesn't really exist anymore; I'm attracted to the Heather Langenkamp of 1984-1997, not the middle-aged Heather Langenkamp of today (God, why-oh-why was I born in the wrong decade?)

Last names on a public forum?  Really?

Thank god you haven't crushed on me.  Although I think that might be you I see lurking outside my window right now...

DuracellEnergizer said:

I've had crushes on nine girls, and I can remember the names of each of them and the order in which I crushed on them (this includes the one I actually fell in love with).

First off, posting the actual names of the non-celebrity crushes is a little creepy... Just saying.

Second, celebrity crushes aren't viable crushes, so it doesn't matter that the Alantis Morissette and Heather Langenkamp you are attracted to do not exist anymore, and it shouldn't be an unpleasant experience for you. It isn't like if you had been born in the right decade you'd be hooking up with the young Heather Langenkamp. I feel like you might be taking your celebrity crushes too seriously.

Also, 2001 - 2008? That is a long time for a "crush" to last. Did you ever ask her out during that period of time, or have any kind of relationship? I am assuming this is the one you fell in love with, so there must have been something mutual there, right?

I'm coming to the conclusion that you are doing it wrong (but I could be wrong). For one, adults don't really use the word "crush". Of course, you could still be in high school for all I know. From high school to present I have been interested in so many girls that I couldn't possible remember all of their names, even if I knew their names to start with. Some were month long endeavors of trying to impress her, others lasted just the minutes it took to talk to her and find out she had a boyfriend or that she wasn't interested. Lingering crushes from afar are about as conducive as celebrity crushes. And no offense, but they can be kind of creepy. It is much better (and not creepy) to put yourself out there, crash and burn, cut your loses, and move on to the next; which is only the worst case scenario, alternatively, you might put yourself out there and find out she is interested. 

Let's look at the situation with Brianna. You bemoan the fact that your work schedules didn't line up enough for you to get the chance to know her, then you got laid off. Losing the job sucked, but it shouldn't have had an bearing on how things played down with Brianna. She was a server, so the solution would have been to go back and grab a coffee/meal/whatever they served there at a time you knew she'd be working, and either flat out ask her if she wants to hang out*, or at least say something along the lines of, "Hey, could I get your phone number? I'd kind of like to stay in touch."

*This is kind of one of the cool things about our society at present, the word "hanging out". It is different than a date, but it still gives you close interaction time to get to know someone, without the pressures of a date. "You want to hang out sometime?" is a very different question than, "Would you want to go out sometime?", but the two accomplish almost the exact same things. Yet they have very different connotation to them. Asking a girl to "go out" with you tells her you are already romantically interested in her, which adds an element of nervousness and pressures, if she isn't sure how she feels about you, or has never thought of you that way before and was caught off guard by your question, then she is much more likely to play it safe and make an excuse. If you ask a girl to "hang out", it is merely saying I think you're kind of cool and wouldn't mind getting to know you better.

 From there it can evolve into anything. If there is attraction and chemistry there, then it will probably evolve into some fun times down the road (or that evening), if there isn't but you end up getting along well, then you may have made a cool new friend, and if there is nothing at all, then you've really lost nothing and now know it is time to move on to the next one. 

I'm pretty sure Mike Verta had some industry contacts (and work?) that I doubt DE has.  It's not like you can just call up someone like Winnie Cooper and ask her out.

AntcuFaalb said:

CP3S said:

Second, celebrity crushes aren't viable crushes

Not entirely true. Mike Verta was married to Danica McKellar (Winnie Cooper from The Wonder Years) for a while. They had a son together.

Lol, I wasn't suggesting female celebrities are sworn to celibacy and have their ovaries removed and their vaginas sewn shut. Obviously someone gets to date them.

I'd love to hear one story of a celebrity meeting and falling in love with an obsessive fan who had a crush on them (who wasn't also famous, or a member of the industry themselves). Either way, I don't think it is doing DuracellEnergizer any good bemoaning that he was born in the wrong decade, and agonizing over the fact that the his aged versions of his celebrity crushes no longer exist. 

Ugh, just using the word "crush" repeatedly in this conversation is making me feel strangely infantile.

Suddenly I want an Orange Crush.

CP3S said:

First off, posting the actual names of the non-celebrity crushes is a little creepy... Just saying.

Second, celebrity crushes aren't viable crushes, so it doesn't matter that the Alantis Morissette and Heather Langenkamp you are attracted to do not exist anymore, and it shouldn't be an unpleasant experience for you. It isn't like if you had been born in the right decade you'd be hooking up with the young Heather Langenkamp. I feel like you might be taking your celebrity crushes too seriously.

Also, 2001 - 2008? That is a long time for a "crush" to last. Did you ever ask her out during that period of time, or have any kind of relationship? I am assuming this is the one you fell in love with, so there must have been something mutual there, right?

I'm coming to the conclusion that you are doing it wrong (but I could be wrong). For one, adults don't really use the word "crush". Of course, you could still be in high school for all I know.

Let's look at the situation with Brianna. You bemoan the fact that your work schedules didn't line up enough for you to get the chance to know her, then you got laid off. Losing the job sucked, but it shouldn't have had an bearing on how things played down with Brianna. She was a server, so the solution would have been to go back and grab a coffee/meal/whatever they served there at a time you knew she'd be working, and either flat out ask her if she wants to hang out*, or at least say something along the lines of, "Hey, could I get your phone number? I'd kind of like to stay in touch."

There is a difference between unrequited attraction/affection/love and infatuation.

Not that anyone has done this here but I do get annoyed when people call a genuine one sided emotional bond a crush.

It can be a really nasty experience which I believe happened to a friend of someone I distantly know a couple of times.

Bingowings said:

Not that anyone has done this here but I do get annoyed when people call a genuine one sided emotional bond a crush.

In the American vernacular, at least, that is exactly what a crush is, a one-sided emotional bond. Or is the situation you are describing one where a person has let the other one know how they feel, find they do not feel the same way in return, and yet still cling on and keep trying? If that is the case, I agree. That is something very different from a crush, more of a creepy stalker situation.

CP3S said:

Bingowings said:

Not that anyone has done this here but I do get annoyed when people call a genuine one sided emotional bond a crush.

In the American vernacular, at least, that is exactly what a crush is, a one-sided emotional bond. Or is the situation you are describing one where a person has let the other one know how they feel, find they do not feel the same way in return, and yet still cling on and keep trying? If that is the case, I agree. That is something very different from a crush, more of a creepy stalker situation.

What you're describing sounds like the friend-zone.

CP3S said:

Bingowings said:

Not that anyone has done this here but I do get annoyed when people call a genuine one sided emotional bond a crush.

In the American vernacular, at least, that is exactly what a crush is, a one-sided emotional bond. Or is the situation you are describing one where a person has let the other one know how they feel, find they do not feel the same way in return, and yet still cling on and keep trying? If that is the case, I agree. That is something very different from a crush, more of a creepy stalker situation.

Maybe it's a cultural difference but a crush (at least when I was growing up) was a romantic obsession for someone obviously unobtainable (a film star, a fictional character, a lego avatar, a teacher).

It's a form of infatuation because it's impossible for most people to know a film star or for them to know you back enough to make reciprocation remotely possible.

'Unrequited love' is a one way romantic attachment which is based on knowing the person and at some point reasonably hoping that it can become something other than one way but it never does.

To call that a crush diminishes the impact on and the emotional integrity of the person experiencing that attachment.

It can be very embarrassing for the person on he other side of the situation and if the situation becomes obsessional it can become the "creepy stalker situation" you describe (though those situations are usually obsessional infatuations to start with).

Most of the time it's just a horrid painful situation which is far from character building and I have sympathy for anyone going through it for either angle.

Physical attraction is largely chemical but we build our genuine relationships on bonded shared experience and familiarity. It's possible to misread cues over a very long time which can lead to false expectations. 

The friend-zone, if you are the sort of person that has friends who wish you wouldn't be standing outside their door holding a cup of coffee and a rose at 6am to wish them a good day at work.

Ordered five tacos from Taco Bell for me and a friend. Got four packets of sauce this time. Guess the manager told them to cut back since the last time I was there.

Bart simpson was at home lisenting to the radio he was lisenting to the rocking rock then a newsflash came.

we interupt this program for a newsflash wow said bart.

I heard on the radio a monster was on the loose then i heard a crunch and a scream and i turned into bartman.

And he flew to the rescuse springfield look more like hell every building was crused there was seven dead people 172 injured and a giant

Who are you?!

i am the destroyer then bartman shoot a tranguilizer dart it broke to 500 pieces

and then he got his turbo laser cannon and shot the destroyer in the head. Then the destroyer shoot acid out of his mouth and burned his costume then bartman flew to the place where he was hit by the comet. And grabbed a peace flew back. And threw it at the destroyer and the street blew up up. And he was back to normal. But then something moved through the trees first no one saw then the edge came out then the spaceship landed an alien came out and said hes wanted in the galaxy

meanwhile in a galaxy far far far away a living bubblee named bubble head was wathing and he said.

What next darth vader giveing you a kiss good night in realty porky pig or garfield but not today so t.thats all folks.

Someone is smoking something!