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I don’t really know what thread to put this in - emotional support doesn’t seem quite right, but it’s the closest I can find at the moment.

I’ve been away for a couple days because my mom was in a snowmobile accident on Sunday.

Her, my dad, and my brother were riding through an open field, and my mom always stays almost ridiculously far back from everyone else for safety concerns. Well, apparently my dad and brother stopped up ahead by the road, and my mom ran into the back of my brother’s sled at 35mph.

She was thrown from her sled, hit my dad’s (in front), then flopped back onto my brother’s. She was unconscious for about five minutes, eyes open and unblinking, before finally coming to. My dad said she thought she was paralyzed. Thankfully she wasn’t, she was moving her arms and legs and talking.

She doesn’t remember what happened. From her perspective, she saw them stopped about 500 yards ahead, then the next thing she knew she was in an ambulance.

She’s okay now. She had a serious concussion and probably a torn ligament or something of the sort in her shoulder. But the scary part is how the accident happened in the first place. There’s a bit of a family history of epilepsy and seizures, but never with her. It’s possible that the concussion caused the memory loss prior to the crash, but there’s the question of how the crash happened in the first place. We’re worried now that she blacked out or had a seizure while riding, which is what caused the crash to happen. My grandma (her mom) recently had very similar seizure issues, but never while driving or anything.

It’s all kind of scary and seizures are something that aren’t well understood and the root cause may never be found out or, even if it is, may not be addressable.

I’ve also had sort of similar “blackouts” in the past, but very rarely, and I’ve always been able to attribute them to dehydration or overheating or something similar, but now I’m not so sure. My uncle (her half brother) is an epileptic, but we always thought that was from her stepdad’s side - but now that her mom has had issues, that might mean that it’s part of my family history as well.

Mostly I’m just happy she’s okay and the accident wasn’t much more serious, but it’s still got me thinking and worrying a little bit.

Anyway, sorry for taking up so much room with all this in a thread that’s meant for more serious personal issues. My mom’s okay and that’s all that really matters right now.

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This was a good thread to post in. I’m glad your mother is safe.

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Me too. I know what it is like to be worried about one’s parents’ health and safety.

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Yes, I’m glad your mother is ok Ash. I hope that she blacked out for a reason other than an epileptic seizure, and hope that things like that never happen to your grandma, you, your mother or anyone in your family ever again.

I hope she recovers well.

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Exactly the right thread I’d say. Best wishes to all of you.

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Today’s Peanuts perfectly sums up how I feel right now:

It’s funny, I’ve never felt lonely on Valentine’s Day before; I guess I just always figured it wasn’t the right time in my life to be looking for an intimate relationship. But now that I’m somewhat settled, I’m starting to crave this kind of connection with someone, but I don’t know how to find it.

TV’s Frink said:

I would put this in my sig if I weren’t so lazy.

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I know how you feel. I’ve never had a Valentine. 😦

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I still see this wonderful girl all the time who makes me laugh and thinks I’m hilarious, but nothing more will ever come of it and it makes me sad.

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Handman said:

I still see this wonderful girl all the time who makes me laugh and thinks I’m hilarious, but nothing more will ever come of it and it makes me sad.

It could be worse. You could emotionally force yourself upon her, act like a petulant child when she’s been nothing but courteous towards you, ask for her hand in marriage when you know she won’t give it, go into a tirade when she predictably turns you down, post manifestos about the school grounds on how the two of you are predestined to be together and anyone who comes between you is challenging the will of God Himself, then find yourself completely and utterly estranged from her with no possibility of reconciliation.

Trust me, it’s better to have her in your life as a friend than not at all.

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Handman said:

Possessed said:

Disagree on that last point.

Better to feel something than nothing.

I lived like that for years, having strong feelings for a friend with no hope of it going anywhere. It gets worse.

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I’m afraid I’m living that right now… even if you decide to go in with 0 expectations your subconscious will inevitably think that every time she’s kind to you she wants something more with you, which will increase expectations and all of a sudden you’re hopeful again.

I don’t know what to tell you Handman, just good luck my friend.

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I so seldom have time to post here these days that, again, I feel like I am never able to craft a nicely worded and individualized post for those of you going through hard times. Just know that I hope all of you realize your worth and make it through your difficult times, or that health comes to you and/or your family members. Hang in there, my friends.

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darth_ender said:

I so seldom have time to post here these days that, again, I feel like I am never able to craft a nicely worded and individualized post for those of you going through hard times. Just know that I hope all of you realize your worth and make it through your difficult times, or that health comes to you and/or your family members. Hang in there, my friends.

Thanks mate.

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darth_ender said:

I so seldom have time to post here these days that, again, I feel like I am never able to craft a nicely worded and individualized post for those of you going through hard times. Just know that I hope all of you realize your worth and make it through your difficult times, or that health comes to you and/or your family members. Hang in there, my friends.

Thanks, ender.
Even though I’m here all the dang time, I still feel like I can’t put together anything that doesn’t sound distant and hollow. But I do care about you all. And I do wish the very best for each of you.
You guys make my life better. Sounds corny, but this place is a big emotional help in my life. So, thanks to all of you for being who you are.

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As a college student I fear that I could get killed in a university shooting any day now.

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LordZerome1080 said:

As a college student I fear that I could get killed in a university shooting any day now.

You’re far more likely to choke to death or fall down the stairs or have a cerebral hemorrhage.

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moviefreakedmind said:

LordZerome1080 said:

As a college student I fear that I could get killed in a university shooting any day now.

You’re far more likely to choke to death or fall down the stairs or have a cerebral hemorrhage.

Cold comfort.

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yhwx said:

moviefreakedmind said:

LordZerome1080 said:

As a college student I fear that I could get killed in a university shooting any day now.

You’re far more likely to choke to death or fall down the stairs or have a cerebral hemorrhage.

Cold comfort.

True. Any time I’m on a plane I have a small nagging fear it will crash. Facts about car accidents don’t help much. Nor does my driving improve. The feeling of powerlessness is what generates a lot of the fear. Right now I have something in my life that I’m powerless to ensure will turn out well. Easy to let the worst possibility to take over your thoughts, even if unlikely. But that is a bit like going out everyday afraid you will be hit by a bus. Sure, that’s possible, but does no good to obsess over.

The blue elephant in the room.