The Place to Go for Emotional Support — Page 64

moviefreakedmind said:

TV’s Frink said:

moviefreakedmind said:

TV’s Frink said:

I hope this doesn’t come off as insensitive but it kind of sounds like you might just need new friends or something.

Yeah, probably. I don’t like anyone else either though.

You haven’t met everyone yet.

I’ve met more than enough for my taste.

This is where you are going wrong. You are never going to have friendship of a long lasting nature if you eat who you meet 😃 Seriously though people tend to be nuanced. There is usually something salvageable from even the most wretched of us and most people never meet the most wretched of us… they are far too famous 😄

Parts of this may sound weird but I have to talk about this somewhere. For the past week I’ve become infatuated with a girl I discovered on YouTube. She’s part of a web series. So as you can guess I don’t know her and she doesn’t know me and also we live in different States.

To say this is a celebrity crush is an understatement. I just feel this weird spark whenever I watch her videos and no this has never really happened to me like this before. I mean look I had a crush on Daisy Ridley after seeing TFA for the first time but I wasn’t thinking about her everyday extensively for the next week. Also I’m 24 so I’m not some youngster experiencing hormones for the first time.

This girl does vlogging about movies and other stuff that I feel I relate to. Movies, depression, internet bullies. However she has an extremely positive vibe which I admit is almost like a breath of fresh air for someone like me who’s dealt with depression for quite a few years now.

It’s strange. I would give anything to meet and chat with this girl or at least find an appropriate way to get her attention. I just don’t see how that can happen. She’s accumulated a good number of followers the last few years so I have as much a chance of becoming close friends with her than the first hobo I run into on the street.

I don’t expect anyone here to give proper advice on this problem but I wanted to mention it somewhere. If people here wanna laugh and make fun of me due to this go ahead. With the way i feel right now I don’t really care. Also before anyone asks no, in spite of her not knowing or having spoken to me, I will not reveal her name or further details on on what she does out of respect to her privacy and to a lesser extent my own, at least not in this thread.

I know your pain.

True and as I said I don’t expect anything to come of it and essentially for that reason.

You don’t like her, you like who you think she is. She is likely very different and less ideal than how your imagination fills in the blanks.

moviefreakedmind said:

crissrudd4554 said:

True and as I said I don’t expect anything to come of it and essentially for that reason.

That’s why I’d recommend combatting the infatuation somehow. Maybe by limiting the amount of her content you watch until your feelings go away. If you let yourself dwell on it you’ll just be wasting your time and energy.

Thats basically what I’m already doing. I even cleared my YouTube history to be safe.

Sounds like you’ve got the right attitude toward this.

Well the earlier I accept the reality of the situation the better. 😉

There is clearly something about this person that you respond to so figure out what it is.
Maybe it’s something you can learn to adopt into your own persona or help you identify realistically meetable people who you might develop a real bond with.
Most situations have a positive lesson to teach us about ourselves or others.

That’s true too. For one thing she definitely has inspired me somewhat to start maybe rethinking of changes in my life. What I wanna do, where I wanna go, people I wanna meet, etc. Stuff I’ve basically been sitting on the last few years.

I know I haven’t been here much lately, but I need whatever emotional support I can get right now. A close friend of mine passed away very suddenly yesterday afternoon. They suspect it was an aneurysm, or maybe even a heart attack of some sort. She was an amazing person with such a beautiful personality…I really connected with her, especially in the past few months. She was selfless, always putting others before herself, and nearly always cheerful and positive. Nobody ever saw this coming. She was too young to die–we were born on the same day.

This is the first time I’ve lost someone close to me. I’m not quite sure how to handle it emotionally. I’m just grateful that I was able to spend meaninful time with her the evening before I left to go on holidays.

I am very sorry your friend passed away. I know what it is like to lose someone close. The only advice I can give you is to let yourself mourn. Give yourself time. Pace yourself. I’ll be praying for you.

Mike O said:

Well, I see my psychiatrist tomorrow for the first time in about five weeks. I have no idea how it’ll go. I’ll be honest and hope for the best, by it’s hard to be honest when you aren’t even sure about things yourself.

I hope everything went ok. I hope things get better for you.

Thank you. Pray for her family too. I can’t imagine how painful it must be for her parents to lose their youngest child; to not have been with her in her final moments.

I will.

Yes, sorry to hear that man.

Thanks guys. It’s still so hard to believe it happened.

Ric, you have my deepest sympathies. You and your friend’s family will be in my prayers. I’m so sorry for your loss.

I appreciate it.

The shock has worn off now, but I don’t think the reality of it has fully sunk in yet. I’m on the other side of the country, so I guess it still feels sort of distant and not entirely real.