The Place to Go for Emotional Support — Page 52

Possessed said:

Today at work she was extremely apologetic and distraught and obviously felt terrible. She had mixed large doses of alcohol and taken double her dose of mood meds and she lost control. She didn’t even remember half the shit she said. I guess it all started because some of the cashiers were making fun of her for being a cougar (referring to how close we are with her being 17 years or so older than me, but I’m only 23 so it’s not like she’s an old lady) and when she got in that state all the sudden she retroactively got mad about it and for some reason lost the comprehension that they were just teasing and that nobody actually has malicious intent about it and because she was so out of her mind just started spouting ridiculous shit about her irrational feelings on it. Considering how she’s unwaveringly been there for me for three years, especially when I went through detox, I reluctantly told her I would forgive her and pretend it didn’t happen if she would quit drinking. She agreed. (somewhat hypocritical of me, but I never told anybody I wished they were dead when I got drunk)

It’s good to hear that things aren’t so hostile and that she’s tried to make amends.

But, beyond helping her get sober, I think you should seriously consider if this is a healthy relationship for you to be a part of.

Well this is the first time it’s ever really caused problems. It’s not like we’re having sex, and even if we did other than those two nights out of three years she’s been an absolutely amazing friend and I’m not going to throw the relationship away just because she’s 40. While there may be some level of sexual attraction between us, she’s really more of a big sister. (As creepy as it is to say those two things back to back like that, but we’re not related)

Possessed said:

Well this is the first time it’s ever really caused problems. It’s not like we’re having sex, and even if we did other than those two nights out of three years she’s been an absolutely amazing friend and I’m not going to throw the relationship away just because she’s 40. While there may be some level of sexual attraction between us, she’s really more of a big sister. (As creepy as it is to say those two things back to back like that, but we’re not related)

Well I obviously don’t know the whole picture so I’m not trying to suggest you do anything beyond consider the worth of the relationship. It seems like in many ways it’s been a cause of stress and depression for you, before this incident even. If you think the benefits out weigh the costs then that’s perfectly okay but you need to ask yourself the question.

DominicCobb said:

Possessed said:

Well this is the first time it’s ever really caused problems. It’s not like we’re having sex, and even if we did other than those two nights out of three years she’s been an absolutely amazing friend and I’m not going to throw the relationship away just because she’s 40. While there may be some level of sexual attraction between us, she’s really more of a big sister. (As creepy as it is to say those two things back to back like that, but we’re not related)

Well I obviously don’t know the whole picture so I’m not trying to suggest you do anything beyond consider the worth of the relationship. It seems like in many ways it’s been a cause of stress and depression for you, before this incident even. If you think the benefits out weigh the costs then that’s perfectly okay but you need to ask yourself the question.

This isn’t the same person I was upset over several years ago if your referring to my heartbreak over an older woman several years ago that I’m sure I talked about here.

Possessed said:

DominicCobb said:

Possessed said:

Well this is the first time it’s ever really caused problems. It’s not like we’re having sex, and even if we did other than those two nights out of three years she’s been an absolutely amazing friend and I’m not going to throw the relationship away just because she’s 40. While there may be some level of sexual attraction between us, she’s really more of a big sister. (As creepy as it is to say those two things back to back like that, but we’re not related)

Well I obviously don’t know the whole picture so I’m not trying to suggest you do anything beyond consider the worth of the relationship. It seems like in many ways it’s been a cause of stress and depression for you, before this incident even. If you think the benefits out weigh the costs then that’s perfectly okay but you need to ask yourself the question.

This isn’t the same person I was upset over several years ago if your referring to my heartbreak over an older woman several years ago that I’m sure I talked about here.

Huh.

Lots of older women in your life?

No lol just the two, the other one is long gone though. this one hasn’t really caused me any trouble except this one time and it was mainly due to mixing alcohol with her medication.

Tyrphanax is on the money. Been through enough truly horrendous break ups (both friends and partners) to know that things do eventually heal over.
It sounds cliché, but distractions are your friend. Give it time and you’ll just look back and shake your head, it happens to the best of us. Either way you’re in my thoughts, nobody deserves to feel that way. Try and get out of the house and treat yourself if you can, your mental well-being will thank you later.

If you’re talking to me I think you missed a key post. I appreciate the thought though.

Yep I definitely thought the previous page was the most recent one haha, sorry

Lol it’s okay

Mike,

It’s obvious that your parents love you and do appreciate your presence. Don’t be afraid of the Dr. either. This isn’t an overnight, magic wand, Disney happy spell situation. You are on a journey to better your health so you can better yourself. That is what you should focus on. That is what is most important to your loved ones, and more importantly, you.

😃

Mike O said:

The psychiatrist’s secretary messed up, apparently I called her the same day her mother died, and she was distraught, and I wasted time and fuel driving out only to have to reschedule. What a fucking day.

Hang in there Mike, hang in there.

😃

That’s super sad. 😦

indeed 😦

suspiciouscoffee said:

darthrush said:

Didn’t really know where to put this but I just learned that a junior at our high school died unexpectedly. I didn’t know him very well but he seemed really nice. A lot of his friends on cross country had to leave the class room when the teacher told us. Damn, it’s so fucking depressing 😦

This made me briefly stop and reflect on the fragility and uncertainty of life. I’m a junior. This could happen to me or any of my friends at any time. If you don’t mind me asking (or if you even know, because I don’t know if you would know), what caused it?

This could happen to any of us at any time … and it is indeed a scary reality.

darthrush said:

suspiciouscoffee said:

darthrush said:

Didn’t really know where to put this but I just learned that a junior at our high school died unexpectedly. I didn’t know him very well but he seemed really nice. A lot of his friends on cross country had to leave the class room when the teacher told us. Damn, it’s so fucking depressing 😦

This made me briefly stop and reflect on the fragility and uncertainty of life. I’m a junior. This could happen to me or any of my friends at any time. If you don’t mind me asking (or if you even know, because I don’t know if you would know), what caused it?

I didn’t know before but we got an update and it turns out that he took his own life. He always seemed so happy and his friends said it was completely out of nowhere.

That’s how it is much of the time sadly. My close friends always express shock when I tell them I struggle with suicidal ideations. (I’m not making this about me or anything I’m fine just illustrating an example) just remember you can never really know how somebody is feeling by how they act. It is really sad though, I’m sorry to hear that and for the pain it inevitably is causing your entire class.

To me, it says that society still has a ways to go, when it comes to eradicating this conception as a way out. It hurts so many people, damages some irrevocably, but there are alternatives out there to help folks heal.

My sincerest condolences on the passing of your classmate. This is not an easy issue to confront on any terms.