I could visit California for a few weeks, probably, but there’s no way on earth I’d want to live there. I accidentally said this to someone from California and suffered the consequences of a poor first impression.
As someone who’s recently been living in CA (and might very well stay), it’s not that bad really. It’s a very big state so more likely than not there’s an area here for just about everyone.
I don’t know what the hell is going on, but my best friend (and very immediate coworker) of 3 years or so I guess mixed meds with alcohol and said tho most shocking and disturbing things to me yesterday. The day before she texted me out of nowhere and told me to leave her alone and that we weren’t friends. Hurtful but whatever, I put in a transfer request because we work closely together. But then yesterday out of nowhere (and without a history of doing or saying anything out of sorts) she texts me repeatedly just to tell me she hates me, she wishes I was dead, to go kill myself, she wishes she could be the one to kill me, etc. I’m never going back into that place again. I’m going to go to all the nearby Wal-Mart’s and try to get an emergency transfer because I’m just not in a mental state to work with somebody I loved whose going to be so hostile to me for seemingly no reason than I can deduce. I know it was the meds mixed with alcohol talking but still she’s clearly changed her tune on me for whatever reason. The sad thing is I have the messages saved and could easily get her fired but I’m too nice and would rather ruin my life and potentially lose my job if I can’t get an immediate transfer because I’m never working with her again. I could easily ruin her for texting that but instead I’m potentially ruining myself to get away and let her be okay, because that’s just the terrible death deserving monster I am I guess.
Sorry to hear it. I’m glad that you’re taking the steps to transfer immediately. You shouldn’t have to deal with that crap at work. Don’t let your life get upturned because of her though if you can’t transfer.
The Person in Question
My life’s already turned upside down by the mere fact that we’ve been best friends for the past few years and this just came out of nowhere. Probably for the best, I was in love with her and it hurt anyway, but I just kinda feel like my hearts been ripped out. I’ll quit whining about it now.
My life’s already turned upside down by the mere fact that we’ve been best friends for the past few years and this just came out of nowhere. Probably for the best, I was in love with her and it hurt anyway, but I just kinda feel like my hearts been ripped out. I’ll quit whining about it now.
My life’s already turned upside down by the mere fact that we’ve been best friends for the past few years and this just came out of nowhere. Probably for the best, I was in love with her and it hurt anyway, but I just kinda feel like my hearts been ripped out. I’ll quit whining about it now.
Oh really?
My life’s already turned upside down by the mere fact that we’ve been best friends for the past few years and this just came out of nowhere. Probably for the best, I was in love with her and it hurt anyway, but I just kinda feel like my hearts been ripped out. I’ll quit whining about it now.
Seriously though, the gist of what I said to rush applies here too. Sometimes things fall apart, and that sucks. But the best thing is just to keep looking ahead. Still enjoy the good memories, but realize that some things have to end, and some things should end. I hope things work out and that you can eventually find some renewed happiness with the distance this will give.
I suggest you show these texts to your boss.
If anything to cover your back.
I wouldn’t respond to them though.
Something clearly strange is going on there and sad as it is it’s the last thing you need right now.
I wish I could just forget the memories. The revelation that age now hates me and wants me to die ruined them for me and I wish I’d never known her.
If you have good memories shuffle those to front of your mind and keep a hazy placeholder of the bad memories at the back as a warning.
It’s a shame but the world is full of people who aren’t doing that so set course for them.
You never know, when her personal crisis concludes you might get a response that makes sense.
I feel like keeping the good memories will only make me more sad that things ended up the way they ended up. I honestly would rather live the rest of my life with a little bit of longing and depression than to just have my heart ripped out like this.
For a while the good memories will hurt more than the bad ones. It’s okay to push them aside for now. The pain will probably last longer than you’d wish but it will pass eventually. It’s at that point that you’ll be able to be grateful for those good memories. Again, it’s okay to hate them now, but things won’t always be so bad. Time and distance is a good healer.
Sorry Possessed, that is rough. I once felt like my heart was ripped out(I am not going to go into details about it). I’ve been there. By all means, stay as far away from her as you can. I wish I had some advise as to how to get over the hurt. Time was the best cure for me. Hang in there.
For a while the good memories will hurt more than the bad ones. It’s okay to push them aside for now. The pain will probably last longer than you’d wish but it will pass eventually. It’s at that point that you’ll be able to be grateful for those good memories. Again, it’s okay to hate them now, but things won’t always be so bad. Time and distance is a good healer.
Yup. Even the deep cuts scar over.
I never thought it would happen to me, but hey, it did.
Keep Circulating the Tapes.
END OF LINE
(It hasn’t happened yet)
All the store managers around me said they knew of me from other upper management types that sortof float from store to store and they said they would take me immediately if they had the position open but they can’t force somebody out to take me (Which I completely understand) but the moment one of them quits or gets in trouble I could come. So I could be stuck for a while. She texted me this morning and apologized for the things she said but didn’t really offer any explanation or any hope of continuing the friendship. She said she was going to put in her two weeks notice tomorrow and quit so that may give me a little relief until I can leave but everything in there will remind me if her and torment me.
I’ve been through so much with her I almost can’t even see myself going forward without her. I mean obviously it won’t physically kill me but I just can’t see me being me. I know that won’t last forever but the last time I went through something like this it was damn near the end of me and this is way worse than that.
I hear ya bro. I’m the same way when it comes to breakups.
What I said with regards to Darth Rush applies here as well: keep moving forward and use the opportunity to develop your hobbies and personal interests and sense of self. Hang in there, man!
Keep Circulating the Tapes.
END OF LINE
(It hasn’t happened yet)
If it helps–people can always use help, but you’re not always the right person to provide it. It sounds to me like she’s going through some sort of crisis herself–cause and nature unknown–but I’d say it’s pretty certain you can’t help her, and she’s sure as hell not helping you. My advice: Walk away, stay away, protect yourself, but don’t do anything that could be interpreted as unkind. It may be she comes out the other end of whatever this is months from now and will tell you what it was all about, and it will suddenly all make sense. But probably not.
Long story short, I think you’re doing the right thing. Don’t demonize her, she may have serious shit going down you don’t know about. And shouldn’t know about for a while at least.
Today at work she was extremely apologetic and distraught and obviously felt terrible. She had mixed large doses of alcohol and taken double her dose of mood meds and she lost control. She didn’t even remember half the shit she said. I guess it all started because some of the cashiers were making fun of her for being a cougar (referring to how close we are with her being 17 years or so older than me, but I’m only 23 so it’s not like she’s an old lady) and when she got in that state all the sudden she retroactively got mad about it and for some reason lost the comprehension that they were just teasing and that nobody actually has malicious intent about it and because she was so out of her mind just started spouting ridiculous shit about her irrational feelings on it. Considering how she’s unwaveringly been there for me for three years, especially when I went through detox, I reluctantly told her I would forgive her and pretend it didn’t happen if she would quit drinking. She agreed. (somewhat hypocritical of me, but I never told anybody I wished they were dead when I got drunk)
Abilify is a miracle drug in many ways! Works so well for so many of my patients! It also comes in two different types of long-acting injections if you just want to take your medicine once a month or every six weeks. I’m glad you’ve finally found something that works for you! I don’t always reply, but I follow how you’re doing. Keep it up!
Well, it was. I feel like I’m backsliding. This is the same thing that happened when the boost to my Prozac temporarily made me feel better. I’ve just been popping it as a pill, along with my Prozac and Klonopin. Much as I’d like to say “Oh, the medication made me better!” There’s still a ways to go, and hopefully the psychiatry will help too. I hope I’m making steps in the right direction and making an effort to feel better and not being too reliant on medication. I really do. This is going to be a long road, but God willing, I’ll come to the end of it different (whether I like it or not), but at least not worse. Hopefully even better.
How does it react with alcohol? I rarely drink, but if I ever do, I’d like to make sure I’m not killing myself.
Man, I was scared to take that Abilify, but WOW, it’s helped more than anything else has so far. I’ve got an appointment with a psychiatrist next month too!
I’m very glad to here this. Good luck with your psychiatrist appointment.
Well, like I said, much as I’d like to say “Well, I’m better now because of the medication,” as I mentioned, that’s clearly not working out a well (or as long) as I hoped. Either way, I’ve got this psychiatrist appointment now, we’ll see how that goes.
My dad pointed out something intelligent too: his doctor, while a nice guy (if a little odd), is even older than he is. I don’t have a family doctor/GP because I’ve always just used urgent care. This is particularly a shame, because such a person would be ideal to get to know me and recommend a therapist. So he’s suggested trying to find someone a little more in my age bracket, which I think is wise. It also make me a little nervous about this psychiatrist, but who knows? One day at a time is hard when some days are pretty good for the first time in a long time and other have me sliding back to the worse days.
How medicine reacts with alcohol is definitely a question for your doctor.
Definitely look into a combination of therapy/medication. Very important to take a holistic approach to this.
And yeah, if you’re more comfortable with a doctor who’s closer to your age, then definitely look into that as well. It can help as far as relating to them and being open with them goes.
Sounds like you’re taking good steps, keep it up!
I’m trying, but man, it’s slow work before even getting to the progress.
“What Orwell feared were those who would ban books. What Huxley feared was that there would be no reason to ban a book, for there would be no one who wanted to read one.”
Neil Postman, Amusing Ourselves to Death
Is it just me, or does Po seem kinda Possessed lately?
I would give a coherent response but as usual I have no idea what it is you’re even trying to say.
ENGLISH Mo-po, do you speak it?
After all we invented the dialect in the first place.
It’s Frinks fault as to why I have that label. There again I don’t help myself.
What am I possessed by then?
Firstly that evil ship that my eldest insists on we have to go to KFC every pluckin Friday!
Surely there are better threads for your nonsensical posts than this one…
Seriously. I mean I’m not personally offended by it but this seriously isn’t the thread for it some people might be seriously upset when they visit this thread and it might bother them to not be taken seriously.
Again I’m not offended I know you’re just being silly but just saying you probably shouldn’t do that here.