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moviefreakedmind said:

DominicCobb said:

I guess it depends on the nature of the rejection and how “persistent” the asker is.

Just because there’s no direct physical or psychological harm doesn’t make it okay though. Harassment doesn’t require those things. Consistent unwanted advances would qualify.

It depends on the type of advances and where they occur. Being annoying isn’t harassment; being an asshole isn’t even necessarily harassment.

It can be though.

Handman said:

DominicCobb said:

I guess it depends on the nature of the rejection and how “persistent” the asker is.

Of course, it’s all situational. I think we get a little too carried away in modern times as to what’s appropriate behavior.

Just because there’s no direct physical or psychological harm doesn’t make it okay though. Harassment doesn’t require those things. Consistent unwanted advances would qualify.

Perhaps, again it depends on the situation.

It does, but I just think it’s important not to consider this type of behavior, in general, to be okay. There are cases where it can be (if the one being asked doesn’t mind), but it can easily be a very frustrating thing for the one being asked.

I have to say, honestly, that I have rejected more times than I’ve been rejected, and neither is very pleasant, but I really do think the former is worse, simply because you’re essentially telling someone you don’t like them. There’s a lot of things that go with that (it’s not just ‘no I don’t want to go on a date with you,’ it’s also ‘no, I don’t think it’s worth putting an effort into to trying to date’). Rejecting someone makes you feel like shit, and if they keep asking you because they think you’re wrong, you can end up with no choice but to explain to them why in more detail you don’t want to go out with them, which really sucks for both. Thankfully I haven’t had to deal with this sort of thing myself. As someone who likes being left alone when I want to be left alone, I don’t envy being in that situation.

^ Rejecting people really does suck. Not as much as being rejected of course, but it does hurt, especially in the cases where the other person is a high quality, good attractive person and you know you’re disappointing then and you hope they don’t feel bad about themselves for it. Never even mind if you have platonic feelings for them.

moviefreakedmind said:

I’m not defending pestering, obnoxious people; I just don’t want to be cavalier in calling things harassment.

DominicCobb said:

I guess it depends on the nature of the rejection and how “persistent” the asker is.

Just because there’s no direct physical or psychological harm doesn’t make it okay though. Harassment doesn’t require those things. Consistent unwanted advances would qualify.

Then I guess Han and even Lando harassed Leia, I guess Chachi harassed Joanie on Happy Days. I guess this is harassment https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7N9C2JS9mWc

RicOlie_2 said:

Jetrell Fo said:

Booman said:

I recently found a 1959 Grundig Majestic Stereo Console on someone’s curb, they were giving it away for no cost. A few hours ago I worked on it some more and I got the thing working, and surprisingly it sounds GREAT! It plays vinyl records and it has a working radio. My guess is that it’s worth at least $800, and I have it for free. I am so happy 😄

This is awesome. Keep it and treasure it. They don’t make them like this anymore and it looks great in your place.

😃

We have a stalker on our hands! 😮

😉

Though I don’t care for the reference, I understand you were kidding, no offense taken. These console turntables are like pieces of furniture and if taken care of they can make one’s living space a bit more elegant due to their age and construction. It’s even better if you like vinyl and have a working one. Vinyl rules!!!

😃

BTW, thank you for taking the little time it takes to make your comment clear so it would be understood. It’s more than most do. I appreciate it.

moviefreakedmind said:

I’m not defending pestering, obnoxious people; I just don’t want to be cavalier in calling things harassment.

I just don’t want to be cavalier when it comes to behaviors that could be harassment.

Warbler said:

DominicCobb said:

I guess it depends on the nature of the rejection and how “persistent” the asker is.

Just because there’s no direct physical or psychological harm doesn’t make it okay though. Harassment doesn’t require those things. Consistent unwanted advances would qualify.

Then I guess Han and even Lando harassed Leia, I guess Chachi harassed Joanie on Happy Days. I guess this is harassment https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7N9C2JS9mWc

Hitting on someone is not always harassment, and I never said it was. It’s just important to realize that it can be.

Especially over a period of years.

darthrush said:

Went to the movies and dinner with the girl I like this past weekend. Ended up putting my arm around her and she seemed to like it. Hopefully this turns out well 😃

I envy you.

Congratulations, darthrush.

Something I’ve noticed that’s a good indicator if a girl is interested, in my experience, it’s her posture with you. If she’s facing you and her arms or legs are “open” (not sexually lo) then it’s a good bet. By that I mean if she looks like she’s ready to give you a hug she’s probably interested. This isn’t a proof positive indicator though so don’t be discouraged if this isn’t the case.

A woman facing you with open arms and legs and/or “looks” like she wants to give you a hug is a good indicator that she’s interested in you? Somehow I doubt this. For one thing, women give hugs for many reasons having nothing to do with being romantically interested in someone. For another, she could be facing you just because she is talking with you. If I were having this conversation in real life with you, I’d probably be facing you. It doesn’t mean I am interested in you. Finally, she just may not feel like crossing her arms or legs at that time.

Warbler said:

A woman facing you with open arms and legs and/or “looks” like she wants to give you a hug is a good indicator that she’s interested in you?

There’s certain streets I walk down where every woman looks at me like this.

moviefreakedmind said:

Warbler said:

A woman facing you with open arms and legs and/or “looks” like she wants to give you a hug is a good indicator that she’s interested in you?

If you’re on a date with somebody then it usually is.

Well yeah, but if she agreed to go on a date with you, you already knew she was interested in you.

Somehow I doubt this. For one thing, women give hugs for many reasons having nothing to do with being romantically interested in someone.

You can tell if it’s the latter based on the context and the type of hug.

but he wasn’t basing on the type of hug, he was basing it on the mere fact that she looked like she wanted to hug you.

For another, she could be facing you just because she is talking with you. If I were having this conversation in real life with you, I’d probably be facing you. It doesn’t mean I am interested in you. Finally, she just may not feel like crossing her arms or legs at that time.

You took his explanation 100% literally and that’s why it isn’t making sense. Obviously someone isn’t interested in you just because they’re facing in your direction.

How was I supposed to take it?

TV’s Frink said:

Warbler said:

A woman facing you with open arms and legs and/or “looks” like she wants to give you a hug is a good indicator that she’s interested in you?

There’s certain streets I walk down where every woman looks at me like this.

I can’t say the same.

Warbler said:

TV’s Frink said:

Warbler said:

A woman facing you with open arms and legs and/or “looks” like she wants to give you a hug is a good indicator that she’s interested in you?

There’s certain streets I walk down where every woman looks at me like this.

I can’t say the same.

You need to “accidentally” drop a few $100 bills as you walk by.

Like I said it’s not proof positive. And I’m also not saying she’s interested just because she gives you a hug. I’m saying if her posture consistently indicates a"pre-hug" stance. Actually hugging has nothing to do with it. I’m merely saying the way she carries herself. Arms open to you, not crossed and not closed off. And like I said it’s just a hint not proof to go by.

TV’s Frink said:

Warbler said:

TV’s Frink said:

Warbler said:

A woman facing you with open arms and legs and/or “looks” like she wants to give you a hug is a good indicator that she’s interested in you?

There’s certain streets I walk down where every woman looks at me like this.

I can’t say the same.

You need to “accidentally” drop a few $100 bills as you walk by.

Can’t afford to do that.

They don’t have to be real.

moviefreakedmind said:

Warbler said:

moviefreakedmind said:

Warbler said:

A woman facing you with open arms and legs and/or “looks” like she wants to give you a hug is a good indicator that she’s interested in you?

If you’re on a date with somebody then it usually is.

Well yeah, but if she agreed to go on a date with you, you already knew she was interested in you.

You don’t know if she’s romantically interested just from that.

Well if she wasn’t, why would she have agreed to go on a date with you?

Somehow I doubt this. For one thing, women give hugs for many reasons having nothing to do with being romantically interested in someone.

You can tell if it’s the latter based on the context and the type of hug.

but he wasn’t basing on the type of hug, he was basing it on the mere fact that she looked like she wanted to hug you.

For another, she could be facing you just because she is talking with you. If I were having this conversation in real life with you, I’d probably be facing you. It doesn’t mean I am interested in you. Finally, she just may not feel like crossing her arms or legs at that time.

You took his explanation 100% literally and that’s why it isn’t making sense. Obviously someone isn’t interested in you just because they’re facing in your direction.

How was I supposed to take it?

Not 100% literally in the sense that every girl who doesn’t cross their arms and legs is interested in the guy they’re facing.

*is confused*