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TV’s Frink said:

moviefreakedmind said:

2: Gradually developing a friendship isn’t what you want, and that isn’t how relationships start, so unless you’re completely satisfied with her just being a friend, then there’s no need to take that route. Use your best judgement, but I can say that the gradually developing a relationship approach doesn’t work.

And I can say that it does. Blanket advice in this situation is silly.

I should have typed “gradually developing a friendship” instead of “relationship”.

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I’m aiming to strike a balance between being too obvious and being just another nice guy. I’m not quite ready to date her, and also don’t want to get permanently friendzoned like the last guy who told her how he felt about her. 😛

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Handman said:

I’m going to come right out and say I don’t understand texting and other digital means of communication being worthwhile if you don’t do anything with them. They’re distractions from reality, so not much thought could possibly be put into them unless they’re really meaningful conversations. Being constantly accessible isn’t always a good thing, I’ve pretty much left social media entirely because I don’t like how everyone’s company/insight is taken for granted.

This belongs in the bitching thread, whoops.

Well here is one benefit, if you are the praying kind. When my father had his bad fall that eventually ended with him passing away, I had put on the church’s facebook page a request to pray for him about a half hour after the fall. Within 15 minutes, I had dozens of members of my church praying for him.


E!-A!-G!-L!-E!-S! EAGLES!!!
SUPERBOWL LII CHAMPS!!!

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Whatever happened to just asking people to go on a date? Why can’t people just go on dates without it having to be serious? Aren’t dates meant to test whether or not you want a relationship? All this backtracking and ambiguity and such is so confusing and pointless. The friend zone is not real, the methods were too ambiguous and there was never a chance to begin with.

“After a time, you may find that having, is not so pleasing a thing after all, as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true.” - Spock

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Handman said:

Whatever happened to just asking people to go on a date? Why can’t people just go on dates without it having to be serious? Aren’t dates meant to test whether or not you want a relationship? All this backtracking and ambiguity and such is so confusing and pointless. The friend zone is not real, the methods were too ambiguous and there was never a chance to begin with.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y259WQIvBNo

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I recently found a 1959 Grundig Majestic Stereo Console on someone’s curb, they were giving it away for no cost. A few hours ago I worked on it some more and I got the thing working, and surprisingly it sounds GREAT! It plays vinyl records and it has a working radio. My guess is that it’s worth at least $800, and I have it for free. I am so happy 😄

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Handman said:

Whatever happened to just asking people to go on a date? Why can’t people just go on dates without it having to be serious? Aren’t dates meant to test whether or not you want a relationship? All this backtracking and ambiguity and such is so confusing and pointless. The friend zone is not real, the methods were too ambiguous and there was never a chance to begin with.

That’s a fair point, but I also don’t really have time to date unless I either quit my job or stop doing homework, so I figure the slow approach is better than nothing.

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Booman said:

I recently found a 1959 Grundig Majestic Stereo Console on someone’s curb, they were giving it away for no cost. A few hours ago I worked on it some more and I got the thing working, and surprisingly it sounds GREAT! It plays vinyl records and it has a working radio. My guess is that it’s worth at least $800, and I have it for free. I am so happy 😄

This is awesome. Keep it and treasure it. They don’t make them like this anymore and it looks great in your place.

😃

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Jetrell Fo said:

Booman said:

I recently found a 1959 Grundig Majestic Stereo Console on someone’s curb, they were giving it away for no cost. A few hours ago I worked on it some more and I got the thing working, and surprisingly it sounds GREAT! It plays vinyl records and it has a working radio. My guess is that it’s worth at least $800, and I have it for free. I am so happy 😄

This is awesome. Keep it and treasure it. They don’t make them like this anymore and it looks great in your place.

😃

We have a stalker on our hands! 😮

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Handman said:

Whatever happened to just asking people to go on a date? Why can’t people just go on dates without it having to be serious? Aren’t dates meant to test whether or not you want a relationship? All this backtracking and ambiguity and such is so confusing and pointless. The friend zone is not real, the methods were too ambiguous and there was never a chance to begin with.

Yes!

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RicOlie_2 said:

moviefreakedmind said:

Warbler said:

Handman said:

Whatever happened to just asking people to go on a date?

if only it were that easy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z0paM8iDDus

It’s only as difficult as people make it.

That only goes for the asking part. Getting a date is where some people have all the luck, and others get stuck waiting for a while.

“Don’t ya panic, don’t ya panic, give it one more try.” If someone says no, you have to ask someone else. That’s where people struggle; getting their heart set on a specific person when there is yet to be any reason to believe it will go anywhere is a bad situation.

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Or you could be like Nixon and ask the same person for a date for two years until they relent, in the classic screwball tradition. Only recommended for extraordinary circumstances.

“After a time, you may find that having, is not so pleasing a thing after all, as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true.” - Spock

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Handman said:

Or you could be like Nixon and ask the same person for a date for two years until they relent, in the classic screwball tradition. Only recommended for extraordinary circumstances.

This sort of thing is usually considered harassment.

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DominicCobb said:

Handman said:

Or you could be like Nixon and ask the same person for a date for two years until they relent, in the classic screwball tradition. Only recommended for extraordinary circumstances.

This sort of thing is usually considered harassment.

In the 30s, it was romantic comedy.

“After a time, you may find that having, is not so pleasing a thing after all, as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true.” - Spock

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Handman said:

DominicCobb said:

Handman said:

Or you could be like Nixon and ask the same person for a date for two years until they relent, in the classic screwball tradition. Only recommended for extraordinary circumstances.

This sort of thing is usually considered harassment.

In the 30s, it was romantic comedy.

I’m aware but that doesn’t make it okay, no matter what the quality of the film(s).

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DominicCobb said:

Handman said:

DominicCobb said:

Handman said:

Or you could be like Nixon and ask the same person for a date for two years until they relent, in the classic screwball tradition. Only recommended for extraordinary circumstances.

This sort of thing is usually considered harassment.

In the 30s, it was romantic comedy.

I’m aware but that doesn’t make it okay, no matter what the quality of the film(s).

If it leads to a happy relationship I don’t see why not. I don’t see too much of a difference between being persistent and “slowly building a friendship”/“being a nice guy” over a similar period of time so long as there isn’t any violence or psychological harm. At least in the former case, the intentions are clear.

“After a time, you may find that having, is not so pleasing a thing after all, as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true.” - Spock

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I guess it depends on the nature of the rejection and how “persistent” the asker is.

Just because there’s no direct physical or psychological harm doesn’t make it okay though. Harassment doesn’t require those things. Consistent unwanted advances would qualify.

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DominicCobb said:

I guess it depends on the nature of the rejection and how “persistent” the asker is.

Just because there’s no direct physical or psychological harm doesn’t make it okay though. Harassment doesn’t require those things. Consistent unwanted advances would qualify.

It depends on the type of advances and where they occur. Being annoying isn’t harassment; being an asshole isn’t even necessarily harassment.

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DominicCobb said:

I guess it depends on the nature of the rejection and how “persistent” the asker is.

Of course, it’s all situational. I think we get a little too carried away in modern times as to what’s appropriate behavior.

Just because there’s no direct physical or psychological harm doesn’t make it okay though. Harassment doesn’t require those things. Consistent unwanted advances would qualify.

Perhaps, again it depends on the situation.

“After a time, you may find that having, is not so pleasing a thing after all, as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true.” - Spock

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darthrush said:

I’m a little nervous though cause of the short moment in La La Land when Mia and Seb hold hands at the movie and lean in for a kiss. Might be a little awkward for us LOL

Maybe. Hopefully the theater people don’t f#%& up and play 50 Shades Darker instead of La La Land.

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darthrush said:

I’m a little nervous though cause of the short moment in La La Land when Mia and Seb hold hands at the movie and lean in for a kiss. Might be a little awkward for us LOL

You should try holding hands! I understand completely though, there was a gratuitous scene in Brooklyn that was pretty unnecessary considering the rest of the movie, and it made my then-girlfriend needlessly tense. Needlessly as in the scene was needless and put a damper on the evening. But you should try it if there’s a chance!

Also keep in mind I’m a stranger on the internet, I want to see you succeed but don’t do anything stupid on account of anything I say!

“After a time, you may find that having, is not so pleasing a thing after all, as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true.” - Spock