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So I kinda started cutting again. To take away my pain of never being able to be with a certain girl. I'd like you to help me stop.
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STOP !!!


SERIOUSLY, SEAN, YOU NEED TO STOP.I BELIEVE THAT I CAN SPEAK FOR ALL OF US NON-TEENAGED GUYS ON HERE WHEN I SAY THAT WE'VE ALL FELT THAT PAIN OF WANTING THAT "ONE GIRL" THAT WE CAN'T HAVE. AND YES, YOU'LL THINK ABOUT HER THE REST OF YOUR LIFE EVEN AFTER YOU FIND THE ONE WHOM YOU'LL SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. I CAN'T TELL YOU HOW TO GET HER OUT OF YOUR MIND, BUT I CAN TELL YOU THAT WHAT YOU'RE DOING ISN'T GOING TO HELP YOU IN ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM.

"I'VE GROWN TIRED OF ASKING, SO THIS WILL BE THE LAST TIME..."
The Mangler Bros. Psycho Dayv Armchaireviews Notes on Suicide

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I kind of feel afraid. But she's like my best friend.
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Sean, dude, I hope you're not being serious. Causing yourself harm is NOT the answer to this. That 'one girl' or not, she's not worth that sort of thing. Go to your room and scream; beat the stuffing out of a soft object if it helps. You can't control how the girl feels, and inflicting harm on yourself isn't going to change that. All you can change is how you deal with it. Take your mind off of her, please. You're still a kid, and you have years to meet new people. I know how it feels to not have the 'one girl' you want, but... NOTHING is worth intentionlly hurting yourself over.

Definitely praying for you, man...

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Dude, if you're serious you need to talk to some people who can really help you. No offense to anyone here but this is a Star Wars fan site not shrink 101. I'm not trying to sound rude by any means I just want you to get some real help.
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I agree with Dork. We are all your friends and want you to be OK. We will help you as best we can, but there is a limit to what we can do.

War does not make one great.

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The thing is I don't know how to get a girl. She's just one of the few I can trust. I've known her for 7 years. And one of my only friends to last that long.
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Well, if she is your friend then what is the problem?
"I don't mind if you don't like my manners. I don't like them myself. They're pretty bad. I grieve over them during the long winter evenings."
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I don't know how to get a girl either mate. I have one though...somehow.

War does not make one great.

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If its the fact that you can't "get with her" thats bothering you so much, just let it go and be her friend.

Junior year I had a similar problem, I spent the better part of four months in the "quasi-dating" stage with one of my closer female friends, but in the end I just stopped trying to win her over and decided to just be friends. Tension was high during the dates anyway, and I fear if I pushed further I'd do something stupid(the first date was a total disaster) we'd never be on speaking terms again. We never really talked about it, and the whole thing sort of evaporated after prom, but we ended up good friends.

Just enjoy spending time with her and suck it up, its what I did and I got over it.
"I don't mind if you don't like my manners. I don't like them myself. They're pretty bad. I grieve over them during the long winter evenings."
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I've been on that very same situation as well, and after an open conversation about it and a clear statement from both on how we felt about it, friendship it was set to be. And honestly, that was the best choice. With a commitment you get a whole set of, lets say, responsabilities that sort of take the fun out of it. Think: apart from sex, what are the advantages? Closeness? Can't you have it with a friend? I talk openly with my friends, I love them the same way, and I don't feel such an urgency to live on the same place or sleep in the same bed as them. And if you are taking sex as a priority here, then you should re-think how you see a relationship... Well I could be wrong, though, and this could be the result of my way of dealing with relationships and being a closeted asexual (don't worry, not as George Takei USED to be). But this is how I feel about it. What I'm saying is: if you haven't spoken about how you feel with her, DO so. You will NOT lose her respect or her friendship - unless you say something stupid like "Hey, wanna do it?". If she's not up to it, well, it was NOT meant to be. She will be there for you, though, and will be very close to you, even more than in a relationship because there is no pressure on satisfying the other or keeping an "image". You can truly be yourself, you can do what you want, you can hang out with who you want... And when it's meant to be, both will know, and both will be willing to do that extra step. So relax and welcome to the human race, filled with pains and sorrow and problems that make the rest of our life look so wonderful in comparison!
“Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them they are being attacked and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger. It works the same in any country.” — Nazi Reich Marshal Hermann Goering
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I don't think theres a person here who hasn't been through that situation. There's a girl i fell for years ago but we were close friends and it's still that way today. She knows I love her and that I would like to be with her but at the same time we can't because of circumstances but that doesn't change the fact that we're friends. If you're hurting yourself, which alot of us have done in some sort or fashion, you're really being a wuss about it. Sure, I've punched walls, and kicked stuff, screamed and yelled, and became a hermit to hide from the pain. There is only one release and it's masterbation...no just kidding, sorry just trying to lighten the mood, it's realizing that another person isn't what is going to make you happy. I used to think that way and I got married quickly because of it and then suffered worse from a bad divorce. Once you see that you can be happy without someone else it'll make you a better person for when/if someone else comes along.

I've been single for almost 4 years since my divorce and yea, I get lonely alot but I've seen that there is so much more out there to expiernce instead of locking myself in my room being sad about someone else. Now I just lock myself in my room and play online all day...it's totally different.
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Also my grandmothers crazy and accused our neighbors of breaking out of our garage and I have to live with her.
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Did you take her to see a professional about this?
“Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them they are being attacked and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger. It works the same in any country.” — Nazi Reich Marshal Hermann Goering
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I tried to get my parents to do it. She wouldn't anyway.
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Not sure what how to handle this situation if she dosen't want any assistance, and would be irresponsible from myself to advise on anything, but please seek someone who might help her...
“Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them they are being attacked and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger. It works the same in any country.” — Nazi Reich Marshal Hermann Goering
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sean, honey don't do this to yourself. there are a LOT of people who love you and a lot of people who care about you. there are more people than you realize, who think about you on a daily basis.

~* you know you love me... xoxo *~

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Sean you have a PM i wanna talk to you k thats my msn add me.
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ok well dl it cause i want to talk to you about some stuff.
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Why do I fall in love with every girl that is ever nice to me?
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Perhaps you don't believe that you are deserving of anyone's affection, making it an overwhelming experience when you feel it from someone you are attracted to.

Or perhaps you feel so lonely that you seize upon any show of affection towards you, from someone you are attracted to, and convince yourself that it has to be because they could be falling in love with you.

I've experienced both of these. I don't think they're unusual attitudes. And they are by no means the only possible answers to your question.

A person showing you affection is not always due to romantic love but it is due to love of some kind. You thoroughly deserve any affection you are shown by your family, your friends or anyone else for that matter! You can be justifiably proud of yourself for this. Just take things a little easier, that's all. Try to enjoy the development of relationships with others without becoming anxious about making it into a romance.

Your Grandmother could have any number of things going on at the moment and her actions may not be due to mental illness, as such. But it is very difficult for children to accept that there may be something wrong with their parents, so your parents may have some resistance to the idea that their mother (or mother-in-law) has mental problems. It is right and proper that you care for her and look out for her but do not jump to the conclusion that no-one else in your family does. And you should certainly not take it upon yourself to feel solely responsible for her. It is awful to see someone you know change like that but you can't take that sort of thing on your own shoulders. It has to be shared. No-one can take that kind of weight alone.

Are you at school or college or what?
Don't you call me a mindless philosopher...!