Don’t try so hard for one thing
If he didn’t “try so hard” (whatever that even means) then he’d probably be even more socially isolated. I get annoyed by this ridiculous, bullshit idea that if you just bumble around and live your shitty little life then great friends and lovers will just fall from the sky into your life. That’s a fucking fantasy.
Ok cool thanks, maybe I’ll follow your advice then and one day my social life will be half as good as yours.
Don’t try so hard for one thing
If he didn’t “try so hard” (whatever that even means) then he’d probably be even more socially isolated. I get annoyed by this ridiculous, bullshit idea that if you just bumble around and live your shitty little life then great friends and lovers will just fall from the sky into your life. That’s a fucking fantasy.
exactly. we all know they come from the sea.
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Don’t try so hard for one thing
If he didn’t “try so hard” (whatever that even means) then he’d probably be even more socially isolated. I get annoyed by this ridiculous, bullshit idea that if you just bumble around and live your shitty little life then great friends and lovers will just fall from the sky into your life. That’s a fucking fantasy.
Ok cool thanks, maybe I’ll follow your advice then and one day my social life will be half as good as yours.
Stop with the bullshit cheap shots.
I don’t see how it’s a cheap shot when he constantly brags about it.
I don’t recall mfm ever bragging about his life.
I’ve always considered my life to be pretty shameful. My point was that some people aren’t able to make or preserve friendships, so your advice doesn’t apply. I’m always glad to give someone the opportunity to pretend they’re better than someone else, so it’s okay.
Also, you completely ignored my criticism of your advice, which is that if he put forth less effort, then he’d be even more isolated. That’s been my experience when I actually cared about befriending other people. If I tried to just take it easy and not “try so hard” then all that would happen is that no one would interact with me.
Also, I think I’d rather have my social life than your social life. From what I recall, you seem to complain a lot about all the heartache it apparently brings you.
The Person in Question
Hey if you fill your entire response to my post with “fucking this” and “bullshit that” it’s automatically going to be read to be hostile, at least in all text form. Now I know you think cursing is a great thing and you cherish it in your day to day life, and not that there’s necessarily anything wrong with that, but if you want to type your thoughts that way you might want to be ready for people to read it as rude and respond as such even if you didn’t mean it as such.
His response wasn’t personal, and wasn’t directed at you per say, but rather at the broad idea you mentioned. Sure, he cursed, but not at you. You retorted with a shot at his personal life, which to me is a little below the belt.
Okay fine, then I just get fucking annoyed at his bullshit ideas on the God Damn subject, sorry I got fucking personal as shit about it.
I don’t care that you’re hostile, I care that you ignored the content of my post. Why even bother responding to it if you aren’t going to comment on what I said?
The Person in Question
There was too much advice in this thread but now it’s more bitching so everything is cool again.
Fair enough. So you don’t want to have friends, it’s not worthwhile to you. That’s fine if that’s what you want. But clearly that isn’t what Handman wants. Yes my romantic relationships with women have left me with alot of heartache, but that isn’t what Handman is asking advice on is it. I have a successful social life, romantic aside. So maybe my advice isn’t such a “bullshit idea” to handman, especially coming from someone who doesn’t even want friends. (And that’s not a potshot you’ve said as much many times) so I am sorry for getting personal. I agree with the advice you gave in the emotional support thread however, he might just be investing his energy in the wrong people.
I actually do have a friend right now, so you’re wrong there. I said your advice to him is bullshit because, more than likely, if he didn’t try so hard to reach out to these people then they probably wouldn’t interact with him at all.
The Person in Question
I actually do have a friend right now, so you’re wrong there. I said your advice to him is bullshit because, more than likely, if he didn’t try so hard to reach out to these people then they probably wouldn’t interact with him at all.
Well I’m glad you have a friend, but you’ve previously indicated you didn’t want any.
And if he’s continually having to do all the work with these people then, as you said in the other thread, he needs different friends. If you have to chase your friends down they aren’t your friends. But there are people out there you won’t have to do that with
You have to try really hard to find them. And even then I can never tell if my friend is avoiding me or not.
The Person in Question
Trying hard to find them and trying hard to keep them are two entirely separate issues.
Sure, but trying less in general won’t help him, unless of course he’s like me and is content with near-total isolation.
The Person in Question
Which it doesn’t really seem like he is.
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i’m sorry to hear that, man. maybe your friend didn’t actually see the text, who knows. shit can happen sometimes.
Ask him if he’s ignoring you.
The Person in Question
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Ask her if she’s ignoring you. Don’t ask it weird.
The Person in Question
Ask her if she’s ignoring you. Don’t ask it weird.
Yeah I don’t see anything wrong with this.
Not being sarcastic.
chyron just put a big Ric pic in your sig and be done with it.
Sure. Obviously she won’t be honest if she is intentionally ignoring you, but if she isn’t and you respectfully tell her that you’d appreciate it if she respond to your attempts to communicate with her then she’ll probably make more of an effort in the future.
The Person in Question