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Asteroid-Man said:

I can't believe you asked "you wanna be my girlfriend?" You don't ask, after a few dates it just kind of happens.

 

Yeah, this sort of question is usually abandoned by the time someone reaches the end of high school. Typically you just let things progress, then if for some reason you still really need clarification you can have the "so where are we at in our relationship" conversation sometime further into the relationship when your communication has evolved beyond the 'Did I say the wrong thing?' 'Did I scare her away?' 'Does she still like me?' 'Should I call her or wait for her to call me?' phase.

You said the two of you kissed? How did that go? If she was going to have a negative reaction to that, it would have been immediate (or at least I'd think it would have been). If she let you kiss her, I can't imagine her being scared away by you asking her if she wanted to be your girl friend. But seriously, when you are to the point of touching lips, you're usually beyond the point of asking if she likes you or not. Unless she just wants to have a good time with you without really being in a complex relationship, which, if that is the case, is something I would highly recommend you grab hold of and fly with.

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C3PX said:
Asteroid-Man said:

I can't believe you asked "you wanna be my girlfriend?" You don't ask, after a few dates it just kind of happens.

 

Yeah, this sort of question is usually abandoned by the time someone reaches the end of high school. Typically you just let things progress, then if for some reason you still really need clarification you can have the "so where are we at in our relationship" conversation sometime further into the relationship when your communication has evolved beyond the 'Did I say the wrong thing?' 'Did I scare her away?' 'Does she still like me?' 'Should I call her or wait for her to call me?' phase

You said the two of you kissed? How did that go? If she was going to have a negative reaction to that, it would have been immediate (or at least I'd think it would have been). If she let you kiss her, I can't imagine her being scared away by you asking her if she wanted to be your girl friend. But seriously, when you are to the point of touching lips, you're usually beyond the point of asking if she likes you or not. Unless she just wants to have a good time with you without really being in a complex relationship, which, if that is the case, is something I would highly recommend you grab hold of and fly with.

Yes we kissed the first time was awkward. It was right after we all started getting up out of our seats. She wasn't expecting it and the lips weren't even. It wasn't my first kiss but it sure felt like it. Our last 2 were before I was getting out of her car (yeah that's right she was driving) this is also when I asked her to be my girl friend. As a bonus here a piece of her art:

[img]http://fc09.deviantart.com/fs48/f/2009/151/1/c/Down_where_we_belong_by_GetInfected.jpg[/img]

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So three kisses. Did she initiate any of them? Even though the first one at the movie was awkward, doesn't sound like she minded it, and she allowed two more kisses to follow. Doesn't sound like you have a lot to worry about.

However, her art more or less scares the living shit out of me. :)

"Every time Warb sighs, an angel falls into a vat of mapel syrup." - Gaffer Tape

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C3PX said:

So three kisses. Did she initiate any of them? Even though the first one at the movie was awkward, doesn't sound like she minded it, and she allowed two more kisses to follow. Doesn't sound like you have a lot to worry about.

However, her art more or less scares the living shit out of me. :)

 

Honestly, I really don't she really is the type to initiate a kiss. She is always so shy. She also had a lot more cleavage this time than last.

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Sorry c3!  I think there was a female member who shared your old ewok avatar back in the dark days of no custom avatars... or I could be wrong =p.  Still sorry!

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sean wookie said:
 

Honestly, I really don't she really is the type to initiate a kiss. She is always so shy. She also had a lot more cleavage this time than last.

Then the game is still afoot!

Be bold. Slip an arm on her shoulder. Stand slightly closer than normal. Brush her hair out of her eyes. Act with the expectation of familiarity, and unless she activly rejects it, keep it up.  It's easier to ask forgiveness than permission. Be a Han, not a Luke.  She's yours for the taking.

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Watch the original "Rocky".  He did it just right.  Beter yet, watch it together.

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bkev said:

Sorry c3!  I think there was a female member who shared your old ewok avatar back in the dark days of no custom avatars... or I could be wrong =p.  Still sorry!

 

Nah, I've been around a couple of years longer than you, and I have never once seen anybody else use that avatar, which is the reason I'd use it. Probably still thinking of my dumb h.l.c3px joke.

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She is going away soon. Should I get her a big Hello Kitty plush for when she comes back? Though I don't want to seem desperate.

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sean wookie said:

She is going away soon. Should I get her a big Hello Kitty plush for when she comes back? Though I don't want to seem desperate.

 

 Fate is giving you a chance to be super player and take it to the next level. When she gets back, give her the serious eyes and tell her that you missed her more than you thought you would. This is hauntingly ambiguous yet romantic. Then give her the rose previously mentioned.

I used a similar strategem to turn this one girl I was 'hangning out with' into my girlfriend, and later, my wife.

Plush toys are for sick children and dates to the carnival. Go for the red rose. ;)

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sean wookie said:

She is going away soon. Should I get her a big Hello Kitty plush for when she comes back? Though I don't want to seem desperate.

 

 Fate is giving you a chance to be super player and take it to the next level. When she gets back, give her the serious eyes and tell her that you missed her more than you thought you would. This is hauntingly ambiguous yet romantic. Then give her the rose previously mentioned.

I used a similar strategem to turn this one girl I was 'hangning out with' into my girlfriend, and later, my wife.

Plush toys are for sick children and dates to the carnival. Go for the red rose. ;)

But I totally seen her give a Domo-kun plush toy a big hug at Toys R Us the other day. I really think she'd like it. Can't I just do that and the red rose? And plus all the girls I worked with said the plush would be a good idea (though one mentioned the rose).

 

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What I'd do, at the risk of seeming childish (from what you said about her, she seems the sort that would find that charming) would be to get the plush toy and fix the flower in its hand somehow (rubber band, twist tie, or string).

I don't think you'd come off as desperate, but that also depends on how you present it. Since it is something you know she likes, I think the only thing you risk coming off as is thoughtful.

Boost's "I missed you more than I thought I would" for her return is a great line. I'd use it.

"plus all the girls I worked with said the plush would be a good idea"

I have never found taking advice from other girls to be an entirely bad idea. Especially if they are friends of hers or know her personally. They know sides of her you have never seen, and can offer excellent insight or suggestions. You just don't want them, or her, to get the impression you are incapible of coming up with ideas on your own. Personally, I'd think of them a bit like "training wheels", serving a purpose until I got to know her better.

"Every time Warb sighs, an angel falls into a vat of mapel syrup." - Gaffer Tape

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C3PX said:

What I'd do, at the risk of seeming childish (from what you said about her, she seems the sort that would find that charming) would be to get the plush toy and fix the flower in its hand somehow (rubber band, twist tie, or string).

I don't think you'd come off as desperate, but that also depends on how you present it. Since it is something you know she likes, I think the only thing you risk coming off as is thoughtful.

Boost's "I missed you more than I thought I would" for her return is a great line. I'd use it.

"plus all the girls I worked with said the plush would be a good idea"

I have never found taking advice from other girls to be an entirely bad idea. Especially if they are friends of hers or know her personally. They know sides of her you have never seen, and can offer excellent insight or suggestions. You just don't want them, or her, to get the impression you are incapible of coming up with ideas on your own. Personally, I'd think of them a bit like "training wheels", serving a purpose until I got to know her better.

Yeah honestly the girls have been the best source of advice. No offense guys.

 

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Girl gets a big plush doll, she hugs and kisses... the doll.

I'm just sayin'.

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I went to toys r us to check out how much it was and it was only 20 dollars so it looks like I'm getting her the plush and the rose. Maybe a card that says "You are the perfect drug" since that is one of her favorite songs. The card would be too much.

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sean wookie said:

She is always so shy......She also had a lot more cleavage this time

 

Pick one.

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sean wookie said:

I went to toys r us to check out how much it was and it was only 20 dollars so it looks like I'm getting her the plush and the rose. Maybe a card that says "You are the perfect drug" since that is one of her favorite songs. The card would be too much.

 

A card is too much.

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PaulisDead2221 said:
sean wookie said:

I went to toys r us to check out how much it was and it was only 20 dollars so it looks like I'm getting her the plush and the rose. Maybe a card that says "You are the perfect drug" since that is one of her favorite songs. The card would be too much.

 

A card is too much.

i already said that.

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sean wookie said:
PaulisDead2221 said:
sean wookie said:

I went to toys r us to check out how much it was and it was only 20 dollars so it looks like I'm getting her the plush and the rose. Maybe a card that says "You are the perfect drug" since that is one of her favorite songs. The card would be too much.

 

A card is too much.

i already said that.

Oh, I thought you were asking--because why would you bring it up in the first place?  I now realize you were talking about the card as a joke.

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PaulisDead2221 said:
sean wookie said:
PaulisDead2221 said:
sean wookie said:

I went to toys r us to check out how much it was and it was only 20 dollars so it looks like I'm getting her the plush and the rose. Maybe a card that says "You are the perfect drug" since that is one of her favorite songs. The card would be too much.

 

A card is too much.

i already said that.

Oh, I thought you were asking--because why would you bring it up in the first place?  I now realize you were talking about the card as a joke.

 

I thought about it and realized it was a stupid idea.

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DarkFather said:

Continue escalating kinosthetics. If you neglect to make physical contact often, then the first kiss will be uncomfortable for both of you. I recommend squeezing the nape of her neck.

 

I recommend the same thing, except I think instead of lightly squeezing the nape of her neck I think he should use his fists to wail on the nape of her neck for 30 or 40 seconds every once and a while.

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Whoa! Now the real advice starts. I'd listen to Stinky, Sean. He got two (2) invitations for loving from Miss Blessing. This makes him the ultimate ladies man in these parts.

"Every time Warb sighs, an angel falls into a vat of mapel syrup." - Gaffer Tape