Interesting. I don’t think we could not tell her, it’s part of what makes her who she is and who we love.
Indeed, especially since I assume she is very young, she’ll probably need some sort of boost, as I did. Eventually the difficulties associated with my Asbergers faded into the background, or at least weren’t as noticeable to an outsider, and in fact it surprised my closest friend when I mentioned it to him a few years ago. But my folks still treated me as a sort of anomaly, which kind of turned sour after awhile. My experience isn’t really indicative of yours at all, but since you replied I felt the need to further explain myself. I didn’t mean for the topic to sort of switch into a much more personal thing, I don’t think I’ve said this to anyone I actually know personally. Here’s wishing well to you, though.