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5-Jul-2016, 11:47 AM

It seems of late, a LOT of people have become cranky. This is a COMMUNITY, and in a community, it’s our responsibility to be courteous and open with one another. Not everyone is as up-to-date as the rest of us. There are 1308 pages in this thread with 25 posts per page. That’s nearly 33,000 posts. Would it not be easier for you to answer the questions of a newcomer than to be crabby and demand that they read 33,000 posts? We were all brought here by a passion we share. If you don’t want to answers someone’s questions, don’t post a response to them.

A lot of patronisation and rude condemnation has been going around in these forums in the last few years - both from critics of adywan and his ardent defenders. I encourage everyone to try to remember the basic principles in handling people:

Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain. Human nature does not like to admit fault. When people are criticized or humiliated, they rarely respond well and will often become defensive and resent their critic. To handle people well, we must never criticize, condemn or complain because it will never result in the behavior we desire.

Give honest and sincere appreciation. Appreciation is one of the most powerful tools in the world. People will rarely work at their maximum potential under criticism, but honest appreciation brings out their best. Appreciation, though, is not simple flattery, it must be sincere, meaningful and with love.

Arouse in the other person an eager want. To get what we want from another person, we must forget our own perspective and begin to see things from the point of view of others. When we can combine our desires with their wants, they become eager to work with us and we can mutually achieve our objectives.