Concur with please let it go.

I had a big, semi-unresolved high school crush (we dated for a bit) that stayed with me into my first year or so of college. It took me awhile to get over it, but I finally did. And now, looking back, hard to see why I cared so much.

The sort of sad part is, I just started dating someone now who I think is totally amazing and, if I had just given up on my old crush earlier, I would have ended up with my current girlfriend much sooner and honestly my life would be better for it. Because looking back at all my high school crushes, they just seem pointless filler. Like I’m not necessarily saying the girl I’m with now is totally perfect for me, but she definitely is more so than anyone I was interested in during high school (even though I was sure some of them were “perfect”). So when I look back I really just want to tell my high school self “don’t worry about any of these girls.”

Point being, we often build people up in our minds to be more than who they really are, and we project attributes on to them they don’t really have. There’s a good chance DE that that girl would never have been good for you anyway. And, even if she was, there are other fishes in the sea - it’s a cliche but it’s 100% true. There’s no such thing as “the one.” In fact, there are a fuck ton of people out there who’d make good “ones.” You just got to get over it and go look.