How about if there was an in-story explanation that stopped it being a parallel for the sake of it and made it into a plot point? For example, what if Ren himself believed that this was something he had to do, specifically because it was something that had gone before (presumably he’s aware that Luke is Vader’s son). Would the characters in the movie acknowledging the mirrors of history make you ok with it? (just asking - personally I would like to see the characters acknowledge the similarities).
I’d still probably see it as lazy writing, but making it part of the plot would at least add some weight behind it. That would only explain a specific instance such as this one, though. It doesn’t fix Death Star III.
I wanted a new story with the old characters handing the baton to the new characters. I got new characters doing what the old characters did, with the old characters as window dressing. Ultimately, it’s my own expectations that are to blame here.
It’s not a bad Star Wars movie. I just don’t think it’s a particularly good one either.
I think all of this is perfectly fair. Expectations are a huge part of anything Star Wars, positive or negative.
I saw a review if TFA that I liked, which was simply “worse than I hoped and better than I feared.”