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I think that your first suggestion -- the one with the introduction and postscript -- would work just fine. Placing edits in brackets would probably make your eulogy come off as too manufactured.
Hello OTers, I am looking for a small bit of advice. About 6 weeks ago a dear friend of mine passed away. Other than three buddies that I have known since childhood and my wife, he was my closest friend that I had met as an adult. His mother asked me last week to share some stories of our friendship at his memorial service, which I was honored to do.
I spent the next several days thinking about what I was going to say, and the night before the service I was up all night writing furiously, editing the best I could as I went. I managed to get a few precious hours of sleep before the 11:00 AM service. When it was time, I read aloud the eulogy that I wrote. It went very well and my friend's family loved it (my friend's father had a huge smile on his face and gave me a big thumbs-up as I left the pulpit). At the post-service reception at the parents' home I was further greeted by more family members that expressed how much the loved the eulogy, and I was sure to discreetly leave a printed copy near a photo of my friend for his parents to find later.
Some friends were unable to attend the memorial and I was asked to post the eulogy online (such as to Facebook) for posterity, which I am happy to do. However, in the days since the memorial, I keep thinking of small details that I had intended to include in the eulogy but escaped me during the frantic night of writing. Also, though fairly well-written, there are a few spots that could use slight clarification, in order to paint a more accurate picture.
It would best honor my friend if I were able to include these edits for the online posting, but I feel an obligation to not post a "Special Edition" of the eulogy thst isn't exactly as I read aloud, at least not without some sort of disclaimer. I am asking you folks what my best option would be... such as posting the eulogy exactly as first written, but with a short introduction and postscript that addresses my unintentional omissions. Or, perhaps include the edits where I intend them to go but place such text in brackets [seems a little distracting].
Thanks in advance for your input.
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I think that your first suggestion -- the one with the introduction and postscript -- would work just fine. Placing edits in brackets would probably make your eulogy come off as too manufactured.
My condolences on the loss of your friend.
How about posting the original version and an edited version?
DuracellEnergizer said:
I think that your first suggestion -- the one with the introduction and postscript -- would work just fine. Placing edits in brackets would probably make your eulogy come off as too manufactured.
Thank you DuracellEnergizer for your input. You are right about my idea for additions in the brackets.
If your crop is water, what, exactly, would you dust your crops with?
Warbler said:
My condolences on the loss of your friend.
How about posting the original version and an edited version?
Thank you Warbler. The additions that I have in mind are pretty minor, I don't really see it necessary to post - twice - the three pages, with such minor additional text. I don't anticipate any removal of text.
If your crop is water, what, exactly, would you dust your crops with?
I'd say post the revised version. It'd be better (in my opinion) to post the best possible version. And since you say the revisions are minor, and presumably improvements, I don't think there'd be anything wrong posting a revised version.
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I would tend to agree...post the best possible version as individuals rarely hear errors as well as they spot them in written form.
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Thanks Neglify and Post Praetorian for your input. So far I have added a short introduction and am currently reviewing the existing written work to see if I am happy enough to leave it as-is. The original is really 95% of what I wanted it to be, and with the remaining details that I wanted to add in a postscript I will probably be completely satisfied. I don't think there are any errors to speak of.
EDIT: The introduction has been finished and I have decided that a formal postscript is not necessary. The eulogy was posted, in its original form without any changes, a couple hours ago on Facebook and the feedback from friends is that it is a very moving tribute. I will have the option to post any further details in the comments over the coming days as I think of them.
I truly appreciate those of you here at OT for your thoughts on this matter, I thank you again.
If your crop is water, what, exactly, would you dust your crops with?