generalfrevious said:
TV's Frink said:
generalfrevious said:
And the housing issue wouldn't be a problem if all houses cost at least a million dollars to purchase in my area. Just to be able to buy a house I would have to move to another state, commute several hours a day from another city, or find another job. I would have to make a down payment of several hundred thousand dollars, which would take several years or even decades if you make 30k a year and don't spend your money on rent, insurance, bills, gas, and food.
Your state doesn't have any housing under a million dollars?
Go rent an apartment.
I wish I could , but the rent's ridiculous too.
Some houses in CA are under a million dollars, but they're in the places like Fresno or Bakersfield.
You are not alone buddy. I know just how you feel. Before I lost my job I was looking for a place to rent and while prices are nowhere near as sky high here as they are where you live they are pretty high. Most places here costs around $600 a month to rent and that was without utilities and one room. The trouble is that because most businesses these day cut hours so much everyone I knew including myself only made around $600-$800 a month and unlike in past decades the landlords today will not let you have room mates because they think they are losing out on another renter if they let more then one person rent the same place. So getting out of your parent's house is harder then it seems.
What is worse most people who have never been in this situation don't understand and think people like us are just lazy and refusing to grow up, I would like nothing better then to grow up and that is one of the reasons I need meds for depression. There is nothing worse then the way some older people look at you when they see you are nearing 30 but have not been able to find a job that pays the bills, I don't think older people really understand what it is like today because the world worked differently when they were kids.
That is not to say older people didn't have problems but people lasted longer at jobs in the old days and there were not as many laws forcing thing on you, not to mention there is a lack of good jobs. Back then when you were hired for 40 hours a week you got 40 hours a week, now adays I know some people who are hired for 40 but only get 12-20, that just barely pays for the car and gass they need to get to work. I don't know if the situation is better in states that are not fire at will, like Delaware, but here my brother the assistant manager at a subway and he can't afford to move out because he only makes just enough money to pay the bills he has right now. He has whipped three stores in the area into shape and works insane hours but they will not give him a promotion or pay him more and he has been looking for a new job for other a year but no one is hiring. What is more back in my dad's day he was able to work three part time jobs, but now adays most companies have a policy that they fire you if they find out you have second job, because they want you focused on working for them. The trouble is that once they cut you down to 12 hours a week that means that unless you find some sort of under the trouble job that pays cash that you do not report to the IRS(thus risking prison time)you only get that 12 hours of work. Oh and it doesn't matter how well the business is doing, the subway my brother works at brings in about half a million bucks a week, and the wal-mart my mom works at makes close to two million and they always have long lines but they cut people's hours so executive bonuses will be higher. Again I don't know if this situation is different in other states but in Delaware they can fire you and not even give a reason so there are no unions and all the employers treat their workers like dirt. Unless you go into the military when you turn 18 there are very few options. I wish I had been on my meds at that point so I could have gone into it but I wasn't so I couldn't drive, let alone pass the fitness tests. Everyone I know who is my age and got somewhere in life had to go into the military to do it.
I know it seems like a lot of people don't understand and give you useless advice but I understand and know that sometimes you just need to vent and not have people give advice so feel free to vent to me if you need to even if you have to PM or email me to do it without being given advice, I don't mind. I know where you are and I want to help.
Please consider getting some help so you don't feel like murdering your family any more. I'll be praying for you, hope things get better soon.