moviefreakedmind said:

I have absolutely no self esteem. I always assume that everyone is thinking negative things about me, and find it impossible to initiate anything with the opposite sex because I think that if I talk to them they'll think I'm creepy and weird. I'm at an age where all of my friends have relationships headed straight towards marriage, and as much as I would like to have that, I doubt I ever will.

I surprisingly have great friends though, and love being around them, although when I actually stop and think about it I really have no idea why any of them would want to associate with me. I have started to slowly recognize that all of these things that I think probably are completely irrational and not true, but still have no confidence and fear that I never will.

I know how you feel, I am in the same place. With me it's more a lack of a job then anything else. I over came my shyness with woman after a while by not caring if I looked stupid, now it's just the fact that there are no jobs around here that keeps me from dating.

One thing I did to get over my problem is I watch some old movies that featured characters and actor with an easy going manner. I didn't so much pattern myself after them in the old fashioned way so much as I just let things slide off of my back and always look calm and care free. In my case watching Carry Grant, Thin Man, and Groucho Marx movies worked wonders. Also watching the series Jeeves and Wooster and reading P.G Wodehouse helped alot too. I don't know how much help this will be to you but it got me through my awkward teenage years and if you have ever seen me then you know I am the size of a house but girls are always coming on to me because of how easy going I am.

I know what it is like to watch all of your friends getting married and to be all alone. My little brother is practically engaged to his girlfriend and I have never had one due to my lack of a job. I hope things get better for you soon.