Warbler said:
DrCrowTStarwars said:
I was bullied all the time as a kid and it wasn't the end of the world. I don't know every time I hear some one talking like being bullied is the worst thing that could happen to you all I can think about is how many times I was beat up as a kid and had my favorite toys stolen and yet it didn't cause any long term problems. In fact now that I am an adult I am friends with some of the kids who bullied me when I was a kid.
I don't know how you could be friends with them. Did they are atleast apologize to you. I want nothing to do with those that bullied me. One of the reasons I avoid going to class reunions is to avoid being in the same room with them.
When there are so many other crimes running out of control in this country I have to wonder why the government is spending so much money on tv ads to stop bullying.
We don't have to only focus on one problem.
Oh and I don't buy that a kid who is bullied will end up shooting up a school or something some day, as I said I was bullied and that idea never once crossed my mind.
nor I do, but I did and still do have fantasies about doing violence to them and getting revenge. It is not something I or most would ever do, but it has can happen.
I don't know it just seems to me that when I was a kid part of growing up was learning how to solve problems on your own
but there are some problems you can't solve on your own.
and I learned to avoid the bullies or stand up to them.
I tried to avoid the bullies but couldn't. Whenever I stood up to them, it seemed to only made things worse for me. They were bigger, strong, and faster then I was and outnumbered me.
It just seems to me like we are training kids to play the victim card their whole lives and when we flood the Tv with all the ads where we act like your life is over if you get bullied once we are just making the problem worse since we are sending the message to kids that if you get called names or anything like that then you may as well kill yourself because you have nothing to live for.
I have never seen any tv ad that acted like someone's life was over just because they were called names.
I don't know it just seems wrong to tell kids to let what others say about them have so much power in their lives.
Its also wrong to pretend that names can't hurt, they can and they do.
People called me names and mocked me all of my life and you know what I learned on my own? To be my own person and not care what they think and do well in school.
for some, it is easier to not care what others think, than it is for others.
I don't think I would have learned to not care what people said about me if I hadn't been picked on as a kid.
all I can say is that I don't think I ever learned anything from being bullied except to hate myself and think that I am such a loser. If anyone has ever learned anything from being bullied, surely there is a better way to learn the same lesson.
Am I saying bullying is good? No. What I am saying is that you can respond to it in a positive way and I think we should be teaching kids how to do that instead of trying to stamp out bullying
why not try to do both?
which I don't see how that can be done without setting up a police state
we can eliminate a lot of bullying without setting up a police state.
teach kids not to care what some idiot says about that, that is the much better option if you ask me.
if only it were so simple to not care what others think. I think we should do that as best we can, but what is wrong with teaching kids that it is wrong to bully as well?
So you have let something that happened to you as a kid control everything you think say and do for the rest of your life.
I don't need anyone to say sorry because I grew up, that is something more people need to learn how to do.
here is the only way you will ever stop bullying. First you have to have cameras covering every inch of the planet, then you have to give the police the power to shoot any kid who bullies in the head. That is the only way you will stop it and while that may be your dream world it isn't mine.
Oh and I was smaller then all the kids that ganged up on me but that didn't mater, I learned to take a punch and not hold grudge. What is the point of letting something that happened 20 years ago when we were all stupid kids define the rest of my life? Why would I want to give anyone that power. As long as I am still standing I can still decide my own fate so they haven't won. One thing I have learned from talking to people, living my own life, and reading books about the subject is violence always has a point and when it comes to bullying the point is to make you feel worst about yourself and change the way you react to things, as long as you don't do that they have not won. The moment you let it become the only thing you care about and you start avoiding people and places that is when they win. Hell if someone is using violence to try and change you and you don't give in they can kill you and they have still lost because they applied all that force and didn't reach their goal.
Do you honestly think that they is any way to stop kids from bullying for all time without a police state? Do you really think it will do any good to execute children or send them into our over crowded prison system? Have all the ads on Tv done any good? Maybe the moment a baby is born we should just dump them in prison, after all then they will never get the chance to bully and the problem will be gone. After all anyone who has ever bullied is an inhuman monster and there is no such thing as going too far to stomp out this problem because it is clearly the number one threat to life on the planet today.