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Post #739319

Author
xhonzi
Parent topic
The thread for the serious discussion that started in the "Am I a Bully?" thread.
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Date created
5-Dec-2014, 3:11 AM

There are a lot of problems that must be solved by people that aren't in the wrong.  Saying that the solution to a problem is within the grasp of a particular party is not the same as saying they are to blame.

The problem is that wrongdoers often have no interest in fixing/preventing the problems they cause.  You can try to incentivize them to a point, but they're already breaking the rules (going against incentives that work for the rest of us) by being wrongdoers in the first place.

So, though they have done no wrong, the solution must come from the innocent, or there will come no solution at all.

As has been said, you can and should try to stop bullying.  However that will never stop bullying.  To really solve the problem, you must teach the bullied not to allow it to happen. 

Stop the victim mentality.  It generally creates more problems than it solves.  Does it solve any, really?

Also- all of the focus on bullying over the past decade, I think, has emboldened bullies.  It's very strong feedback that their tactics are working.  It's like feeding a troll.