I don't want to tell you too much what to do, but I would have recommended capturing with your lance. Remember, our ranging pieces are probably the only way we're going to get your dad. And remember that he could have captured your pawn on 13mn by illumination, leaving your lance in his crosshairs. You could have moved your lance to safety and captured my bishop simultaneously. Be on the lookout for such vulnerabilities :)
Don't worry, we're fine for now. :)