No I said he was as much of a whore as his mother and friend.

None of which have sex for cash as far as I can make out.

All three are adults with lives that are complicated and the potential to act with less poise than they would prefer. If that's calling him a loser it's calling everyone a loser.

And again with the Devil's advocate... by posting on an open forum the contributor has opened themselves up to a response, that was my actual literal response (not a formulaic reversal of the delivered statement but a considered response to the post made) . Now I'm trying to be helpful and I have alerted the reader to my potential bluntness in the first line so hopefully they go into the response with that in mind.

Infidelity and abuse of trust is as forgivable as those directly effected chose to make it. I have been the victim of both and it's devastating at the time but if you ever cared about that person you take it in the round.

My ex was manipulative, cheated on me for years while claiming (probably accurately) that he was too tired to see to my desires. When I found him in our bed with someone else I was furious. I found out this went on for years (with numerous people) and worse still was the financial fraud (taking cards and loans out in my name) then running off with £10000 at a time when I could have really done with the cash and traveling the world like the red line in an Indiana Jones film.

But it wasn't all bad. He wasn't all bad. If I wasn't with a very jealous new chap I would be able to be friendly with him (AT A VERY LONG DISTANCE).

I was very ill and he kept my spirits up and he was funny and knew how to enjoy life (okay to my financial detriment much of the time but we had laughs and I have happy memories which I refuse to jettison because he turned out to be a roguey).

I had loved him and while his betrayal of my trust hurt deeply it would be doing that love a disservice to pretend it was never there because it ended really badly.