RE: Warb, It's illustrative of his usual inability to follow a chain of evidence.
He is on a Star Wars board, someone comments how a recent film is creating more traffic on the board, the obvious assumption is he is talking about the new Star Wars film.
Elsewhere his asks what a easy to search for word means. He also doesn't understand the concept of the ignore button going by his ongoing quoting out of context of my words and his snide comments about me in his signature bar.
And yet to his credit he manages to deduce what you mean first time when it alludes people with a better track record.
"The other side of the fence" is an adversarial term as in "the grass is greener". It presents an image of two sides divided by a barrier. And to say that bigotry is on both sides of the fence you are suggesting parity of bigotry across an adversarial divide. You do know what adversarial means?
On one side of the fence is a religion based on a largely peaceful, tolerant philosophy bolted onto a bronze age list of extreme punishments for often bizarre transgressions. Leading to 2000 years of repression in the name of the faith. On the other side you have people. No organisation, no credo, some are nice, some aren't the only thing they have in common is their sexual preference for members of the same gender and the oppression from the other side of the fence. Naturally they will gripe about the other side of the fence from time to time.
The words mean what they mean, if that's not what you meant to say that's no fault of mine is it?
You are sufferer from a rather nasty problem in current American English parlance.
In British English there are such things as wrong and right opinions because the word opinion means a conclusive position. If my opinion was that the world is made of sherry trifle it would be my opinion (possibly uniquely) but it would be a wrong opinion.
In current American parlance there seems to be no such thing as a wrong opinion which makes the word seem rather redundant.
RE: your experiment my responses to someone making those statements would be.
1) You need to read more about biology and sociology and talk to people with an open mind who feel the way that confuses you. Your support for equality would be enriched by more information and a greater understanding various minority groups that make up the population you wish to treat equally.
2) That's a problem you should take up with your bar or club manager. I agree that restrictive themed nights in a public place should be balanced with similar nights for the opposite gender. If one club or bar or what have you doesn't have a Men's night in your town, hire a space and start one. Private clubs are a different matter. If someone starts a private club or gym it's usually to help people perform an act which would not be possible in a public place. A woman's only gym for example would cater exclusively for women and offer creche facilities, baby changing areas and experts in women's fitness and would allow women to exercise without men snooping at their busty substances.