We lost our first attempt through a miscarriage. The emotion tied to such traumas are genuine. Being excited about having a child because you want one and are willing to sacrifice to raise that child better than you were raised and then in a flash, it's done. Yeah, I felt it too. I believe it makes me a better parent to have allowed that emotion it's due.
I don't speak for anyone but myself.
Thoughts of strength and peace sent your way ender.