Warbler said:

bkev said:

As someone who's closest friends identify as on the spectrum, and having a debatable place myself, I do take some offense to Ender's self-righteous claim that Warb belongs there. Or, rather, the way he presented it with no tact whatsoever. Web diagnoses on these sorts of things are pathetic at best - as I would think a nurse would know. Ender, you're using it as a way to discredit him in argumentative situations on the forum. Seriously, listing the signs here? As if to remind everyone else he's below you?

That's the sort of thing that, if you were genuinely curious, should have been addressed in private via PM or something.

I understand you were trying to be polite, but all you've managed to do is cherry coat a condescending appraisal of Warbler. I've a right to point out that this comes off as rude.

bkev, I don't think Ender meant any offense and I didnt take any offense. I think Ender knows that a 'web diagnoses' can only be considered an estimate, and that without knowing more about me, could very be incorrect. I think he also knows that although he does have some knowledge about these things, he is technically not qualified to make an official diagnoses. Ender has always come across as a nice person to me. I don't think he said what he said to hurt my feelings or discredit me or remind me that I am below him.

Thank you, Warbler. I am glad you took this in exactly the light I intended. I think you are a great guy. I'm sorry bkev took it so wrong. He does have every right to tell me if I was rude, but I hope he understands that if it was rude, it was rude in a completely different way. Again, I'm so glad you didn't see me as being rude. I really was hoping not to hurt you, and if you took no offense, then I care far less what anyone else thinks. :)