Am I still allowed to bitch about something other than homosexuality? Because I'm going to.

I work in a nursing home, which you may or may not know. (and this may not exactly be bitching, but I don't know where else I should share it) And although a resident dying is obviously one of the most heartbreaking things to experience at work, another very saddening thing that happens every day is when a resident with severe Alzheimers or dementia asks for a loved one, or even worse a spouse, who has been dead, in some cases for a very long time. It's heartbreaking, and incredibly difficult to respond to. Do say the honest thing and tell them the truth, and have to watch as they break into tears and relive the news over again (since they have forgotten)? Do you lie and say they are fine? Do you go somewhere in between and say you don't know where they are (technically true since we don't know what happens when we die) or that they aren't here right now? (also technically true)? It's very hard and I hate dealing with this and feel so bad for them. To be truthful causes deep pain, while giving the answer that will soothe them makes you a liar.