Bingowings said:
I don't try to convert people from heterosexuality, I don't rape or molest people.
I do express my position on discussion boards or in debate when the subject is raised. Why shouldn't I?
I just breezed into the thread, so sorry for my tardiness in this debate.
As for "born with it" or "it's a choice," well from my perspective, there is not any one single answer. We are each individuals and what we do is determined by our backgrounds, our families, our culture, our genetics, our past experiences, the decisions we've made, etc. etc.
So, what may be true for one (he/she was born homosexual) is not necessarily true for the next, who could have been heterosexual but something may or may not have happened that may have rewired their sexual preference. This can easily happen in childhood. It could even be a combination of the the two, having been born with tendencies one way or the other, but an event or non-event pushes you toward homosexuality or heterosexuality.
Many girls who are molested turn toward homosexuality (and no I'm not saying all homosexual women have been molested or that molestation necessarily leads to homosexuality) because of the fear that the grown man placed on her and she now finds that sex acts with men are disgusting. I think it's certainly plausible that her fear, which often turns to hatred, can manifest a girl to prefer being with women over men wherein she would have most likely been heterosexual had her first sex acts with a man were of love and with consent instead of fear and lust. So while it's not necessarily "a choice", it is a decision based upon past experiences and events psychologically.
But, I am convinced there are many homosexuals just born with the desire and no explanation for why, but should there be? I don't really think so, it's just the way of the world.
As far as this "force" thing, I think it's a lack of communication between heterosexuals and homosexuals, and most of the blame can be put on heterosexuals. When a heterosexual says "don't force it on me," I don't think they really think a homosexual is going to try to molest them, but I think they mean "I don't mind your homosexuality, but I'd prefer not to hear about it whatsoever." Is it right? Probably not, but people cannot help but feel very uncomfortable about certain subjects and would prefer not to think about or remotely discuss it, homosexuality is one of those subjects. Furthermore, they may have a staunch disagreement with homosexuality, but they sincerely like the homosexual person, and they simply do not care for the homosexual to try and convince them that "it's okay to be gay."
I know some will roll your eyes, but many Christians sternly believe Homosexuality to be a sin, but they would happily be friends with homosexuals while adamantly disagreeing with their personal choices.