generalfrevious said:
I must obey whatever the church says, and regard all outsiders who do not agree as always wrong.
Except that the Church doesn't teach that people who disagree with the Church are always wrong. In fact, atheists can get to heaven if they are genuinely seeking the truth. So can Muslims and Hindus and agnostics and Protestants, etc.
I want to believe that the Church's teachings on sex are wrong, but I can't.
You seem convinced that it is and of the reasons for it. You also seem to have an incorrect understanding of the Church's position on sex. Please explain why you want to believe the teachings are wrong when you see the reasons for the teachings. And PLEASE ask questions because you don't seem to get the Church's position on a lot of things. I don't know if you're pastor is in error or what, but saying things like "sex is evil" or "sex was the first sin committed against God" is going against Church teachings on the matter.
So I must conform to their logic, so that abortion can be stopped and I don't have to go to church angry every week because the priest always works in abortion to every homily,
I am beginning to suspect that you have an odd priest. Pope Francis himself said that we need to stop focusing so much on issues like abortion and homosexual marriage and start loving people.
how bad the "world" is, and how they feel persecuted by that world. And then I encounter countless websites saying that the Humane Vitae is vindicated and how bad the pill is, and how the hell anyone could be pro-choice. Just type in Humane Vitae in google or youtube to know what I mean.
Not all websites are trustworthy just because they're Catholic. There are sites that are incredibly medieval minded and think that women wearing pants is wrong, as well as dancing (ballroom dancing dancing). Obviously, they are still in the 1500s or something, because the Church has no such stance against women wearing pants. The only reason it was wrong back then is because men were used to seeing women in dresses and the more they saw of women's bodies the more sexually aroused they were. So when they could actually see the outline of women's legs their imaginations started filling in the blanks. Now our culture has become quite desensitized to that kind of thing and it isn't as arousing as it once was to see a woman wearing shorts and a T-shirt. A century ago that would have been scandalous. In some native tribes the only article of clothing that both men and women wear is a loin cloth. Men in those tribes don't go bananas because they see women's breasts because they don't associate it with sex like we do. It's a cultural thing. OK, I spent too long making my point, but you can see that the sites may be in error or not entirely in agreement with Church teachings. Also, what was applicable then may not be entirely applicable now. Morals and values are constant, but you can see the way in which the way they are manifested might change depending on how culturally acceptable something is (in the way I described above. Don't think I'm in agreement with something like abortion or gay marriage just because it's culturally acceptable).
EDIT: Sorry for my largely off-topic rant. I was just trying to make a point about the way the Church views virtues and morals over time might change, and in what way. I was also trying to say that Catholic site doesn't equal infallible site.