generalfrevious said:

We live in an age of extremes. You cannot have a reasonable position on any issue anymore. I don't know how to look for the good in things; can anyone help me?

I'd be happy to talk if you'd like to PM me. I'm not a Catholic but I try not to tread on anyone's deeply held beliefs. Yet from what you've said, it seems like you sincerely wish to decide for yourself the truth of things, and would do so were it not for family concerns.

As for seeing the good in things, well you care strongly about the value of human life. That's a good thing indeed. If you want to start with a small change to improve your outlook, consider perhaps changing the broken record in your signature. It's hard to look at something like that every day and not get discouraged. I'd suggest Beethoven's Symphony #9.

;)