I've got different settings for when i'm watching films off my blu-ray player/laptop to when i'm watching whatever's on TV. I'm configured my blu-ray/laptop viewing settings on my TV so that films look exactly the same as they do on my monitor.

As for the program I use, it called TMPGEnc Video Mastering Works 5. I'm able to do my colour grading, editing and encoding all in the same program so i've found it very useful.

I boosted the highlights a little bit in my latest settings, nothing like as much as your example but enough to make a noticable difference without blowing out highlights in the rest of the film or brightening the blacks. Here are screencaps with my latest and I think final settings for now:

I'll be putting up some screencaps for Empire Strikes Back with my current settings tomorrow.