This has been explained in the past as 'not in their nature'. Of course, it hasn't stopped Obi-Wan from chopping Maul in half (out of anger **very un-Jedi**).
Another explanation is Obi-Wan's line 'there are alternatives to fighting'. Yeah, like what? Allowing the Galaxy to be controlled by the iron fist of Vader and the Emperor for 18 years while you wait for 'the chosen ones' guardians to get charred by Galactic Stormtroopers?