Mrebo said:

You seem way too comfortable with ruining people's lives for a violation of federal law. There are so many laws out there that the government could ruin your life, if not make it utterly miserable, if it so chose. That's not okay.

if you don't like a law change it. At least with federal law you only have repeal it once, not 50 times.

I'd say when two people that love each other are kept by law from marrying, that could be said to ruin their lives. Yet you have no problem with that.