Warbler said:
that was not my point at all. You were arguing against a one size fits all mentality. But in the case of public restrooms we do have to think in those terms because it would be ridiculous for every place to have a separate restroom for each individual.
You know what? You're right. We should just have one bathroom for everybody. Thanks for helping me see that!
I do just want you to know, Warb, that I don't think you're a Nazi bigot or whatever. I, like CP3S, just find it interesting that you are the "bleeding heart liberal" and yet your own personal level of comfort seems at odd with some of your related philosophies. I'm actually having a lot of fun with this discussion (you know, aside from your harumphing at a very exciting moment I captured in a photograph but even that was only very minor), and I find your views fascinating. I really have been interested in getting you to elaborate so I can understand better and, hopefully, I can get you to just entertain the idea of thinking in a new way, especially if it's something out of your comfort zone.
so now you are going after my concern that a gay man might want to try to look at my stuff in the restroom. Tell me, would there be any complaint made about a woman concerned that in a unisex bathroom, a straight man might try to look at her stuff?
Of course that's something to be concerned about... but no more so than it already is in same sex bathrooms, no matter how much imagination you expend to believe everyone is straight. If you don't want people looking at One-Eyed Bob or Foxy Box, you have that right. And this is nothing new. That's why bathrooms (or fitting rooms at clothing stores) generally offer a degree of privacy, like stalls or partitions. If you assume someone is looking at you in a bathroom, you have a right to do something about it. If you steadfastly assume no one is ever looking at you even as you're already peeing around people who could potentially be attracted to your own gender, I don't necessarily see why your perception need change.