CP3S said:
First off, posting the actual names of the non-celebrity crushes is a little creepy... Just saying.
Perhaps. There are worst things in life than admitting an attraction to specific people, though, and at least I didn't post pictures of them (this time around, anyway).
Second, celebrity crushes aren't viable crushes, so it doesn't matter that the Alantis Morissette and Heather Langenkamp you are attracted to do not exist anymore, and it shouldn't be an unpleasant experience for you. It isn't like if you had been born in the right decade you'd be hooking up with the young Heather Langenkamp. I feel like you might be taking your celebrity crushes too seriously.
I do tend to take things like this a bit too seriously. It goes with the territory, though, when you're the type of person who's never had even a single romantic relationship.
Also, 2001 - 2008? That is a long time for a "crush" to last. Did you ever ask her out during that period of time, or have any kind of relationship? I am assuming this is the one you fell in love with, so there must have been something mutual there, right?
It started off as a crush, but it became something deeper the longer it lasted. And yes, I did tell her how I felt, but she didn't reciprocate. In the end, I just became too infactuated with her, and things between us ended on a very sour note.
I'm coming to the conclusion that you are doing it wrong (but I could be wrong). For one, adults don't really use the word "crush". Of course, you could still be in high school for all I know.
Most of these crushes were from when I was in high school or earlier (I'm 25 now, so I haven't been inside a high school in about nine years or so) so that's why I label them so. The more "modern " examples never really developed into anything serious, so I label them crushes as well for lack of a better term.
Let's look at the situation with Brianna. You bemoan the fact that your work schedules didn't line up enough for you to get the chance to know her, then you got laid off. Losing the job sucked, but it shouldn't have had an bearing on how things played down with Brianna. She was a server, so the solution would have been to go back and grab a coffee/meal/whatever they served there at a time you knew she'd be working, and either flat out ask her if she wants to hang out*, or at least say something along the lines of, "Hey, could I get your phone number? I'd kind of like to stay in touch."
Unfortunately for me, I suffer from social anxiety disorder, so casual conversation itself is something I have a problem dealing with, let alone asking someone out on a date. I'm also unemployed, have no driver's license, and am stuck living with my self-righteous, religiously-conservative, control-freak parents, which only complicates matters further.