To clarify, my comment was directed at Leo. I was trying to determine what made a comment seem more bothersome or less, and I do think it comes down to simple phrasing. When one says, "I think maybe God wasn't helping you," or, "Maybe you just have more natural talent than you realize," I guess I don't don't see it as condescending, but merely expressing a different point of view. But when one says, "No, you did that completely on your own," with simple matter-of-factness, it seems more demeaning. Really, I guess it comes down to whether one precedes his comment with a phrase noting the subjectivity of his perspective. When Leo made his comment, I don't believe he made any such note, which is why I commented as I did. But I do believe he meant it in genuine kindness.
I want to be clear, I like everyone I've disagreed with in here: Leonardo, CP3S, Bingowings, TV's Frink, TheBoost, and even walkingdork, despite a few previous run-ins. I appreciate it when you guys are willing to accept the validity of our points of view, which really does include not simply stating yours as the only perspective worth considering.
That said, I feel your comments are quite valid, Puggo. It certainly is difficult to think that God helps us poor, wealthy Americans who misplace our Ipods, while others in this world suffer. I saw this picture once, and it is a firm reminder of appropriate perspective:

I think people sometimes forget that God answers prayers in various manners. Even we can be answers to prayers. We can serve others, send money to or volunteer in poor countries, etc. There are people in need, but often they are far more appreciative of the little God gives them than the affluent are of his far more abundant blessings. In the end, God can do anything, but he seldom chooses to directly intervene when others make poor choices. People starve in Africa because of evil dictators who misuse the generous donations of wealthier nations. God will not take away the agency of this evil men, but he can influence others for good. Sometimes even the toppling of a regime is an answer to many prayers.
Okay, I'll stop before my religious point drifts too far into the political.
As for your thoughts, Bingo, clearly God wants us to be proud of ourselves. It's when our pride in our own achievement exceeds our humility for his blessings that he becomes annoyed.