Looks like ST09 is REALLY polarizing. People either love it or hate it. I'm a fan of Star Trek (not a super-fan, but a fan) and I loved it. My Dad's been a super-fan since he was a kid, and he also loved it.
As for Kirk being too smug, keep in mind this isn't the same Kirk. He's grown up without his father in this time line. That being said, the Kobayashi Maru scene is the ONLY scene I really dislike in the film.
As for Abrams directing SW......I'm kinda' indifferent. I was hoping they'd go for somebody less obvious. Less of a "name" director.