All good advice.

Believe me when I say, I am not damning his parents, neither am I a "transient participant". I've been close with my cousin since we were babies, I see him 2-3 times a week, and I have been involved in almost every aspect of his treatment since the brain tumor.

At this point, I am the ONLY caring person in his life that hasn't checked out emotionally. This is not a judgment about his parents' characters, this is a fact about their behavior. He has no friends left, his sister moved out of state, so it's his parents and me. I appreciate what you say about what his parents have gone through, but suffice to say their behavior and lack of concern for him is something that goes back a looong ways. They put off his CAT scans because they didn't believe him. They explained away every symptom he had, and repeatedly told him not to worry and get so worked up. It wasn't until he fell walking to class and injured himself that a scan was done and the tumor discovered. This was a year after he first started complaining about bizarre symptoms.

As for myself, I cared for my father - who I was VERY close to - for 2 years in my home while he died of cancer. I've been through therapy myself, and my grandfather was a psychologist, so caring for a sick person, and therapy in general, is not new to me. I have been taking copious notes, and I've been in touch with his psychiatrist. He has a full brain scan every 6 months to determine if there is new growth, so his brain is being monitored.